Give Yourself Back to Life

WindSister
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Give Yourself Back to Life May 30, 2017 13:46:42 GMT -5 GeekGoddess, jim44444, and 7 more like this

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Post by WindSister on May 30, 2017 13:46:42 GMT -5

It's risky starting over.

Yup it is.

But it's even riskier not doing so.

Regrets are tough.

Mistakes are easier.

We can learn from our mistakes but there is not much we can get out of regrets.

Please go out into the world.

Take small risks.

Give yourself back to life.

Every day.
Christina Rasmussen - Second Firsts
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I didn't write that, though I easily could have come up with my own version. I just think the simplicity of it works. Christina Rasmussen from Second Firsts posted it on Facebook today. I like the message so I am leaving it here.

Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. - Brene Brown

jim44444 Senior Members Posts: 1,510 Age Range: 70+	Give Yourself Back to Life May 30, 2017 20:00:23 GMT -5 GeekGoddess likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by jim44444 on May 30, 2017 20:00:23 GMT -5 "Take small risks." Small risks are easy, it is the big risks that are so hard to take.
	"Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity." Robert J. Hanlon

bballgirl Senior Members Posts: 3,462	Give Yourself Back to Life May 30, 2017 20:09:38 GMT -5 via mobile GeekGoddess, cagedtiger, and 1 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by bballgirl on May 30, 2017 20:09:38 GMT -5 Fortune favors the bold. It's one of my favorite quotes and a motto I try to live by to avoid regrets.

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Give Yourself Back to Life May 30, 2017 20:20:55 GMT -5 WindSister and ironhamster like this

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Post by baza on May 30, 2017 20:20:55 GMT -5

Taken in the context of an ILIASM shithole, and ones future happiness, I don't believe that vacating an ILIASM shithole is actually taking much of a risk at all.

The anecdotal evidence from hundreds and hundreds of ILIASM shithole escapees attests to this.

I can't remember any escapee coming back here and saying - "Well that was a huge mistake and I so wish I was back in my ILIASM shithole".

This is NOT to recommend a stampede to the exit by the membership, but is rather just to point out that there is very little, if any, evidence to support a theory that getting out of an ILIASM shithole carries a high risk of you ending up unhappier longer term.
And of course, it needs to be acknowledged that vacating an ILIASM shithole WILL make you unhappier in the short term.

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Post by WindSister on May 30, 2017 13:46:42 GMT -5

Post by jim44444 on May 30, 2017 20:00:23 GMT -5

Post by bballgirl on May 30, 2017 20:09:38 GMT -5

Post by baza on May 30, 2017 20:20:55 GMT -5

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