Post by cagedtiger on May 26, 2017 12:08:23 GMT -5
Her delusions are no longer your problem.
" " " " " " concern.
Once these delusions, manipulative controlling actions and comments, DARVO re-occour, I have to set boundaries, defend myself ,put up my guard, again, and again. Mostly by being forceful and rude. Yea, I don't like it....it's not my nature. It really wears you down.....precisely what they want.
My STBX says, "you interrupted me". I finally said, "yea... and you need to be interrupted, often! You twist and manipulate my words, and you need to show respect, and be held accountable!" She doesn't like that!! ( I should have done this 20 yrs ago)
I have to stay, "STOP!!.....back up! I asked you a question, I made a statement, you are changing the subject, you are not going to answer it. I will make it simple. It was a yes or no type question.
I will answer it for you. No, you do not mean this, NO ,you do not do this. Yes, you said this, yes you said that. NO, you did not consider, or listen to anyone else. Yes ,you put your self on a pedestal, you think your queen/king! Look what it's gotten you! No one wants to be around you anymore, including me!"
You will most likely receive the silent treatment. They aren't used to being confronted, embarrassed, proven wrong, knocked off their pedestal, and put on a level playing field.
In their mind, they are probably thinking of the next victim.
Take comfort that it will no longer be you. No longer your problem, or concern.
The healing has begun.
About that... Check your PM's.
