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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2017 15:57:47 GMT -5
You've come a long way girl! Keep the momentum, the faith, the hope. You've got this!
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Post by unmatched on May 14, 2017 19:09:27 GMT -5
ggold , if he has known this was coming for a long time... and now he is dragging his feet to share the financials with you... there's a chance he's trying to spin a story, not just being lazy. Especially since you don't trust him, strongly consider having him served soon to legally block him from any financial funny business he might not have executed already. If he still wants to mediate, great, but the ball is in motion and your interests are more protected. And it wouldn't be wise to tell him the plan before he's been served. You are right but I am not emotionally prepared to serve him right now. I want to give mediation a chance. I am fully aware he could be working behind the scenes. I know you want this to be a mutual process and are still hoping that at some point he is going to kick into gear and start moving forward with you. But there isn't much evidence of that happening. DryCreek might be right - maybe he is doing all kinds of underhand things behind the scenes, or just as likely he might be burying his head in the sand and trying to ignore reality for as long as he possibly can. Either way, you need to accept that he might never come on board with this process, and he definitely may never come on board with it until you kick him hard enough to get his attention. I think gg's idea was a good one - set another date for mediation and for him to show you what he has done, and on that day if nothing is happening you file with an attorney. I am sure it must be still possible to have an amicable, mediated agreement even after you have done that. But only if he is actually part of the process, and you may well need to force his hand to make that happen. |
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Post by skguy on May 15, 2017 13:30:54 GMT -5
ggold, if he has known this was coming for a long time... and now he is dragging his feet to share the financials with you... there's a chance he's trying to spin a story, not just being lazy. Especially since you don't trust him, strongly consider having him served soon to legally block him from any financial funny business he might not have executed already. If he still wants to mediate, great, but the ball is in motion and your interests are more protected. And it wouldn't be wise to tell him the plan before he's been served. You are right but I am not emotionally prepared to serve him right now. I want to give mediation a chance. I am fully aware he could be working behind the scenes. You're one of the strongest people I know. Hang in there my friend. |
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Post by thistooshallpass on May 15, 2017 14:03:06 GMT -5
There are more things in heaven and earth, ggold, than are dreamt of in our philosophy. The possibilities are endless! I hope the Universe continues to hear you and to bring you all that you desire and deserve. You, and all of us here are deserving of so much better; of so much more.
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Post by dinnaken on May 15, 2017 14:46:36 GMT -5
Hi GGold,
It's lovely to hear your story; I'd like to wish you both all the very best for the future, you deserve it.
Hopefully to reassure you, I encountered obfuscation when it came to the financial side of splitting up; in the end there was nothing sinister, it came down to that oldie but goodie - control.
Very best wishes
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Post by Deleted on May 15, 2017 15:26:02 GMT -5
@ggold Congratulations! I hope it works out.
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Post by Deleted on May 15, 2017 18:16:40 GMT -5
Excellent! You rock!
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