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Post by greatcoastal on May 22, 2017 12:00:07 GMT -5
One person I am definitely not attracted to any more is my STBX. The other day we went to a school awards ceremony together. I watched her from across the gym filled with other mom and dads my age or younger. I really notice how much she has let herself go. I notice what a mismatch we look like together. I watched her talk with our neighbor the other day the two of them standing in our neighbors driveway. My neighbor is in her early 70's she works out every day. My STBX is 50 yrs old, She sits, every day. You can imagine how the two look together.
Then there's the emotional side. The clarity of the manipulative, controlling, self centered behavior. Along with it comes a strong desire to avoid it at all costs.
The other day I was talking with another man and a woman , I gave my opinion about something, with an example to back it up. The woman turned and imediately used the word, "NO" and went on to give her opinion of her totally opposit "feelings only". For once I said " Look,, as much as I like you, and will continue to, and your a good friend, you said "no" to my comments, you gave an opinion only, based on your self fears. You're allowed to have an opinion, but do not trash mine when I have multiple examples, and background to back it up." Strange....she doesn't talk to me anymore.... life goes on, no love lost!
So definitely a change for what I am attracted too!
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