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Post by bballgirl on May 6, 2017 15:01:49 GMT -5
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Post by WindSister on May 8, 2017 8:57:57 GMT -5
Ouch. I can relate way too much to that article and I am glad those days are behind me.
YES, to this ----> "But the stupidity combined with the consciousness meant I was able to clearly see my patterns for the first time. And awareness is the first step in making changes."
And DEFINITELY yes to this -----> "This is what I want. This is what I desire. And I’m not going to take anything less.
I’m not afraid anymore of not getting what I want. I know that if this man is the right man for me, then he will meet me there. If he’s not, another will. I can wait."
That is almost exactly what I wrote in my journal the night I got clear in my head, "You just haven't met HIM yet - let all others go and never settle."
Powerful stuff.
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2017 14:33:45 GMT -5
GREAT article. I could relate to a lot of what she said.
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Post by baza on May 9, 2017 20:59:58 GMT -5
Back in the day, I used to present an attitude of confidence and assuredeness in social situations.
It was a total facade in fact.
I was as insecure and vulnerable as anyone else, possibly even more so than most.
Plus, I had no idea what I wanted.
So I tended to settle on what - if anything - was being offered.
That is to say, if some chick showed some interest, I'd go along with it (on the basis that this was as good as I was ever likely to attract) usually until it collapsed of its own accord, or the chick called a halt to it.
I dunno that I was a people pleaser or not (I think not) but a lot of what the woman in the article said makes a whole lot of sense to me.
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Post by McRoomMate on May 10, 2017 8:37:47 GMT -5
Here is a quote I will remember and I can relate to (NB: of course replace the "him" with a "her" in my case):
"maybe there’s something wrong with me because I’m not sexually attracted to him. Maybe I could be if I tried hard enough, or if I was drunk enough.”
And if I can ever get even close to the following . . . I will have reached "Enlightenment" indeed. I quote the article:
This is what I want.
This is what I desire.
And I’m not going to take anything less.
I’m not afraid anymore of not getting what I want.
I know that if this man is the right man for me, then he will meet me there. If he’s not, another will.
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Post by McRoomMate on May 10, 2017 8:40:47 GMT -5
And I aint into the "Shakra" system as I think it is commonly mis-applied by us "Westerners" but I think the basic connections are there (Mind/Heart/Body) - so it is still a good reference point for the "Whole Shebang" as the author says - Excellent ARticle ! ! !
the whole shebang—
1. the mind-mingling of sixth chakra,
2. the heart-melding of fourth chakra and
3. the sacred sexuality of second chakra.
East or West - you can usually count on a "trinity" or "three" things to be all right.
Actually now that I think about it . . . My past relationships had one or more of the above missing and I bet that had something to do with why it went sideways.
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Post by lyn on May 13, 2017 12:43:51 GMT -5
Wow - I truly relate -
She says:
"And I’m not going to take anything less.
I’m not afraid anymore of not getting what I want.
I know that if this man is the right man for me, then he will meet me there. If he’s not, another will. I can wait. And my sexual vamp can wait. She’s had her crazy, wild time of liberated “freedom”. At least, she thought she did. It’s time she learns what real freedom is and what it really means to be a sexually liberated woman.
Because I know that when my boundary is finally met, the sexual vamp will have the safe playground she always craved to fully express—the deepest of her desires from a swirling vortex of mind, heart and sexuality.
And that is worth standing my ground for.
I am worth standing my ground for."
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Author: Kara-Leah Grant
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The NEXT time around (because there WILL be a next time), I WILL NOT SETTLE.
I'm not talking about wanting a hot guy with a lot of cash - NO. These things are NOT actually important.
I want it all. A KIND, compassionate human that "gets" me and WANTS to be with me. Someone who loves being happy - wants his partner to be happy - would never knowingly make his partner unhappy. Really really simple.
There is more to it, but the gist is - I WILL NOT SETTLE.
He is out there - the YIN to my YANG.
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