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Post by randy53 on Apr 27, 2017 5:58:13 GMT -5
Two different times this month my wife has come on to me and made me think that we were finally going to have sex. Two times she shuts it down at the last minute. Fuck I hate that I fall for it every time.
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Post by GeekGoddess on Apr 27, 2017 6:29:36 GMT -5
This sucks.
The birth of a counter-refuser. When you shut down the next attempt, to guard yourself from this feeling- she will then be able to forever "blame" you for "that one time I tried & you said no"
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Post by baza on Apr 27, 2017 6:42:40 GMT -5
Back on March 4th, you mentioned that you hadn't had a root with her for 4 years. So the events (or non-events) you now describe over the last month don't seem greatly surprising Brother randy53 . |
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 27, 2017 7:35:47 GMT -5
Peculiar thing about these 'come on's made to you, thinking you were going to have sex' they were never notarized!
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Post by bballgirl on Apr 27, 2017 8:53:56 GMT -5
With all due respect your wife is a bitch!
You are in a dessert for 4 years, and she's dangling a drink of water in front of you?!
I'd call her out on that shit!!
Ask her what was the point of her coming onto you?
I'd also explain to her that no sex and celibacy were not in the marriage vows.
For better or worse? She can have worse, you want better!
Tell her you will no longer accept a celibate marriage and ask her what her solution is. That's if you still love her and desire her.
If you don't desire her then there are other choices, divorce or outsourcing.
Let's face it she probably isn't going to give you the quality enthusiastic sex you want either.
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Post by shamwow on Apr 27, 2017 11:06:05 GMT -5
This sucks. The birth of a counter-refuser. When you shut down the next attempt, to guard yourself from this feeling- she will then be able to forever "blame" you for "that one time I tried & you said no" Even worse when it is along the lines of "I was going to have sex with you, but we were out partying and you got so drunk you passed out" (true...I even got my neighbor's entire 40th birthday party kicked out of a downtown Houston bar...not my proudest moment). That happened sometime back in 2015 I think and it's been dangled over my head several times since. That way, it isn't even you saying "no" it's a moral failing on your part, not a choice you made. That way, she has the high "moral ground". Psychology is a bitch, isn't it? |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2017 11:27:42 GMT -5
Two different times this month my wife has come on to me and made me think that we were finally going to have sex. Two times she shuts it down at the last minute. Fuck I hate that I fall for it every time. This is cruel and abusive. |
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 27, 2017 17:07:54 GMT -5
Two different times this month my wife has come on to me and made me think that we were finally going to have sex. Two times she shuts it down at the last minute. Fuck I hate that I fall for it every time. This is cruel and abusive. Could be worse.....  |
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Post by randy53 on Apr 27, 2017 17:30:59 GMT -5
I think she would totally do that |
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Post by hopingforachange on Apr 27, 2017 20:29:50 GMT -5
This sucks. The birth of a counter-refuser. When you shut down the next attempt, to guard yourself from this feeling- she will then be able to forever "blame" you for "that one time I tried & you said no" Even worse when it is along the lines of "I was going to have sex with you, but we were out partying and you got so drunk you passed out" (true...I even got my neighbor's entire 40th birthday party kicked out of a downtown Houston bar...not my proudest moment). That happened sometime back in 2015 I think and it's been dangled over my head several times since. That way, it isn't even you saying "no" it's a moral failing on your part, not a choice you made. That way, she has the high "moral ground". Psychology is a bitch, isn't it? I don't think I have to be conscious for him to work. |
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Post by lyn on Apr 27, 2017 23:47:55 GMT -5
Two different times this month my wife has come on to me and made me think that we were finally going to have sex. Two times she shuts it down at the last minute. Fuck I hate that I fall for it every time. What would happen if you said, "What's going on? We ARE doing this." You are an EQUAL member of your partnership. You hold 50% of the ownership. It's up to you to SAY something. This stupid prick-tease act is just cruel. |
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Post by petrushka on Apr 27, 2017 23:56:14 GMT -5
That's actually happened to me. Now with the wife, but with a lady who visited me "for a test drive". Gods, she was a psycho. |
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 28, 2017 5:11:51 GMT -5
Wow. I'm sorry. What the fuck? That's evil.
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Post by seabr33z3 on Apr 28, 2017 5:33:37 GMT -5
When you say "come on to to you". What specifically do you mean? Was that hugging or kissing or cuddling, which you perceived as 'coming on' or was it something more overtly sexual? I'm just wondering if her perception of what she did was something else.
You say she backed off " at the last minute". If that happened as it is worded... TWICE... then it's not good. Why not on her birthday or Christmas or whenever hand her an empty box. When she opens it and wonders why there is no ring/necklace/earrings say " well, I got as far as the shop. I lifted them and had a look and a feel, but I knew that that would be enough for you. I know for you that it's the thought that counts rather than the actual giving/receiving" and smile and give a hug.
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