It's night and day...

It really is. The difference between yes and no? It's like night and day. I know it seems confusing in the midst of a SM but it's really quite simple. You know. You... just... know. When's it's yes, its yes, when it's no it's no. There is some gray area in between and sometimes it's a bit unclear. Sometimes you aren't sure if yes is no or no is yes. I think all couples have those moments. ...but suffice to say, it ought to be a clear yes every once in a while. It ought to be clear as day reasonably often. How often? Well that's up for all of us to decide. If it's almost always in that gray area or almost always a clear no (even if their mouths say the word yes)... well then don't try to fool yourself into thinking that maybe it truly was a yes. A yes is not hard to see. A yes is easy to see. A true yes is inviting. It's not tenative. It's not uncomfortable. When you see a true yes, its just as true to you as the sun in the sky on a clear day. You dont need to hear the word yes to know it's yes. It's a yes when a kiss is returned. Its a yes when a touch is returned. It's a yes when you feel that inviting aura. ...a soft touch on the waist ...inviting lips. We all know what a true yes feels like. We just kind of forget sometimes. Being in a SM feels like steady cloud cover that is so dense that you're not sure if it's night or day. You're not sure if the sun is even there behind the dense clouds. It could be, we hope it is, others tell us it's there... but our gut tells us it's not. I say trust your gut. It knows. ....it ....knows. I'm not necessarily saying to bail if you arent sure if the sun is shining. Leaving may be your solution. For me, staying has allowed the sun to shine once again. It's clear as day. It's not often a clear sunny day, but when it is, I remember. I remember what its like to see the sun in the sky clear as day. I remember. It's been ages and that's caused me to doubt my senses. My senses have never been wrong, I've just been afraid to trust them. I hope you all her your sunny day to remind you what it should feel like. I know how it feels to be under dense cloud cover. I just know.