Good article about choosing the life we want

The awareness of that freedom- I had "missed" noticing when it disappeared. I didn't wake up from my denial until the love was gone in the marriage.
I often felt, when deciding to leave my H, that if I had only been aware of how things were changing then I could have prevented the actual death of intimacy & connection. But, you know, in a marriage partnership- that isn't just one person's job. So I ended up forgiving myself for not noticing & moved on to taking action.
Even now, I'm sometimes tempted to feel locked in to certain things ... because I said I would give someone a ride, or attend a gathering "because I should" or other myths. I try hard to check my motivations.
If I find I'm doing something I really don't want to do, I try to pull back my perspective & see if I'm "creating the jail" myself through these self-limiting beliefs.
I'm better at not committing to things I don't want to do. Better at changing plans if I get intuition later that I don't want or need to go through with something, even if I first said I would.
More work to do on this, but I'm better at it.
Loved the article.