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Post by bballgirl on Apr 12, 2017 10:34:41 GMT -5
How many red flags do you think means "GET AWAY!"? One. Especially at this stage of the game! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2017 11:58:13 GMT -5
How many red flags do you think means "GET AWAY!"? I have to agree that one is enough. If you are not married yet, it is time to talk about these things, but if the person will not discuss them or try to change them, it is time to run as fast as you can. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2017 14:10:03 GMT -5
I can relate to what GeekGoddess said, because my deal started out really good. I thought Mr. Kat and I were set for life. Then he developed health problems/depression/a possible drug problem. And the more I wanted him to do something to address the problems, the less he wanted to. |
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Post by whuffo on Apr 14, 2017 9:47:34 GMT -5
Especially at this stage of the game! Yep. Hind sight is always 20/20. But if there's a next time for me, first hint of DARVO, controlling, BPD, OCD, IBS or anything else 3 lettered and I'm high tailing it the other way. |
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Post by novembercomingfire on Apr 14, 2017 10:15:07 GMT -5
Especially at this stage of the game! Yep. Hind sight is always 20/20. But if there's a next time for me, first hint of DARVO, controlling, BPD, OCD, IBS or anything else 3 lettered and I'm high tailing it the other way. Ditto. And never ever try to form a relationship of any kind with a narcissist ... |
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Post by darktippedrose on Apr 14, 2017 16:11:50 GMT -5
1. He told me that sex get boring fast and that he got most of it out of his system when he was with his ex-wife.
4. Masterbation/porn. He acted like he never did it as a teen. Didn't have desires.
5. My marriage was arranged and I was young so him being religious was actually hyper religious. so religious he was unreligious. I found out shortly after marriage that he'd rather hang out with men and study religion than spend time with wife and kids.
6. My husband didn't have lots of life skills and he looked down on it as women stuff
8. He was still angry at his ex for cheating on him because he wouldn't have sex with her or give her much family time.
also, I was 19 and was too naïve to know about any signs. I was an angry teen because of childhood issues and my mom was dead. So not many women to tell me things about men. He was my first relationship.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2017 14:39:30 GMT -5
1. He told me that sex get boring fast and that he got most of it out of his system when he was with his ex-wife. 4. Masturbation/porn. He acted like he never did it as a teen. Didn't have desires. 5. My marriage was arranged and I was young so him being religious was actually hyper religious. so religious he was unreligious. I found out shortly after marriage that he'd rather hang out with men and study religion than spend time with wife and kids. 6. My husband didn't have lots of life skills and he looked down on it as women stuff 8. He was still angry at his ex for cheating on him because he wouldn't have sex with her or give her much family time. also, I was 19 and was too naïve to know about any signs. I was an angry teen because of childhood issues and my mom was dead. So not many women to tell me things about men. He was my first relationship. So what is it that keeps you with him? He sounds so angry and rude. |
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Post by darktippedrose on Apr 17, 2017 16:07:20 GMT -5
1. He told me that sex get boring fast and that he got most of it out of his system when he was with his ex-wife. 4. Masturbation/porn. He acted like he never did it as a teen. Didn't have desires. 5. My marriage was arranged and I was young so him being religious was actually hyper religious. so religious he was unreligious. I found out shortly after marriage that he'd rather hang out with men and study religion than spend time with wife and kids. 6. My husband didn't have lots of life skills and he looked down on it as women stuff 8. He was still angry at his ex for cheating on him because he wouldn't have sex with her or give her much family time. also, I was 19 and was too naïve to know about any signs. I was an angry teen because of childhood issues and my mom was dead. So not many women to tell me things about men. He was my first relationship. So what is it that keeps you with him? He sounds so angry and rude. Its the Children. they have autism and its hard to keep them safe even with him in the house, let alone without him. |
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Post by hopingforachange on Apr 17, 2017 18:19:54 GMT -5
So what is it that keeps you with him? He sounds so angry and rude. Its the Children. they have autism and its hard to keep them safe even with him in the house, let alone without him. Is there family you could move near that would help? |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2017 22:36:45 GMT -5
So what is it that keeps you with him? He sounds so angry and rude. Its the Children. they have autism and its hard to keep them safe even with him in the house, let alone without him. I am so sorry. That is a tough situation. |
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Post by darktippedrose on Apr 18, 2017 15:24:15 GMT -5
Its the Children. they have autism and its hard to keep them safe even with him in the house, let alone without him. Is there family you could move near that would help? I do have family but they live in a smaller town that doesn't have as many resources for autism. My relatives aren't as understanding of autism. They're place isn't autism friendly. The place I live in now is more secure for my children. And also, once a week I take a long nap and it helps me so I can be up and at it with my kids. I wouldn't be able to do that at my relative's house. |
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