|
|
Post by GeekGoddess on Mar 29, 2017 8:55:33 GMT -5
Those who claim that staying for the kids should watch this.
@smartkat will also appreciate it, I think.
I was looking for the thread "what kind of father did you have" but I couldn't locate it from my phone.
Good little "food for thought" within the shithole as well as post-SM dating.
|
|
|
|
Post by wewbwb on Mar 29, 2017 9:04:05 GMT -5
@geekgoddess
Well this is 20 years too late.
Thanks.
|
|
|
|
Post by greatcoastal on Mar 29, 2017 9:21:02 GMT -5
That's very good! Personally I can testify to marrying someone who knew they were much like their mother, a manipulative controller, very low on intimacy,(their upbringing) and said," I'm not going to be like that". All very promising, yet time proved the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
Then there are cases were people learn from their negatives surroundings and avoid, or correct such circumstances.
Seeing the ball and chains remind me, two things happen in the storms of life:
1)We get bitter and run
2)Or we get better and get going.
|
|
|
|
Post by GeekGoddess on Mar 29, 2017 11:54:55 GMT -5
wewbwb - it may be needed if you ever get out. greatcoastal - I was also a person who swore I would not be like the bad sides of my mother. But when real life happened, I did shut down & began walking parts of her path. My shithole was not entirely attributable to my spouse. I played a huge "complementary" role in helping the shithole develop. Difference was, my spouse wanted to ignore it & pretend it didn't need fixing vs. I took time to realize what was up but wanted to DO something about it. As we say here a lot, that would take both of us. So I waltzed my way out the exit instead. My work now is to prevent it from repeating.
|
|
