Why *YOU* Need an Exit Strategy.
Mar 26, 2017 18:49:31 GMT -5
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Post by baza on Mar 26, 2017 18:49:31 GMT -5
Scenario #1
You are in a marriage *made in heaven* and are blissfully happy (ILIASM members may have to use their imagination here).
Unless you, and your spouse have managed to unlock the key to immortality, your marriage IS going to end.
You are going to cash in your chips, or your spouse is.
Your marriage is going to end.
You (both) need to see a lawyer to cover this scenario, pertaining to wills and other legal nuances that your (or your spouses) demise will throw up. And to prepare your kids (if any) to deal with the upheaval as best you can.
Matters like whether you want to be buried or torched, your funeral service and suchlike personal preferences so you ain't leaving those left to "guess" what you might prefer.
Scenario #2
You are in an ILIASM shithole.
Apart from the *usual* reasons (as above) your marriage is at extreme risk of ending via divorce.
Probably at your instigation, possibly by your spouse exercising their own choice.
So you need the appropriate legal advice from a lawyer in your jurisdiction to establish how a divorce would shake out for you.
(a) - so you don't get blindsided if your spouse makes a pre-emptive strike out of left field
(b) - in the event that *YOU* decide that the comedy has gone on long enough.
Additionally you need an exit strategy in do-able shape.
Your support network shored up to help you navigate this difficult situation.
Also as much research as you can manage to help the kids (if any) transition through such a process.
None of the above mean that you have to action your death, or your divorce.
That, as ever, is solely your choice, and responsibility.
But you DO need to have in your pocket, a contingency plan to cover your arse (and in scenario #1, to cover your spouses arse) should things deteriorate and go guts up.
Your marriage - be it *made in heaven* or an *ILIASM shithole* - carries with it one guarantee.
That it IS going to end.
It is incumbent upon *YOU* to take on the responsibility of managing such a scenario as best you can.
And appropriate information is the key to that process.
You are in a marriage *made in heaven* and are blissfully happy (ILIASM members may have to use their imagination here).
Unless you, and your spouse have managed to unlock the key to immortality, your marriage IS going to end.
You are going to cash in your chips, or your spouse is.
Your marriage is going to end.
You (both) need to see a lawyer to cover this scenario, pertaining to wills and other legal nuances that your (or your spouses) demise will throw up. And to prepare your kids (if any) to deal with the upheaval as best you can.
Matters like whether you want to be buried or torched, your funeral service and suchlike personal preferences so you ain't leaving those left to "guess" what you might prefer.
Scenario #2
You are in an ILIASM shithole.
Apart from the *usual* reasons (as above) your marriage is at extreme risk of ending via divorce.
Probably at your instigation, possibly by your spouse exercising their own choice.
So you need the appropriate legal advice from a lawyer in your jurisdiction to establish how a divorce would shake out for you.
(a) - so you don't get blindsided if your spouse makes a pre-emptive strike out of left field
(b) - in the event that *YOU* decide that the comedy has gone on long enough.
Additionally you need an exit strategy in do-able shape.
Your support network shored up to help you navigate this difficult situation.
Also as much research as you can manage to help the kids (if any) transition through such a process.
None of the above mean that you have to action your death, or your divorce.
That, as ever, is solely your choice, and responsibility.
But you DO need to have in your pocket, a contingency plan to cover your arse (and in scenario #1, to cover your spouses arse) should things deteriorate and go guts up.
Your marriage - be it *made in heaven* or an *ILIASM shithole* - carries with it one guarantee.
That it IS going to end.
It is incumbent upon *YOU* to take on the responsibility of managing such a scenario as best you can.
And appropriate information is the key to that process.
