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Post by solodriver on Mar 8, 2017 16:29:38 GMT -5
Let's see how many positive things that we can share that could help us get through the daily horror show that is our SMs! An example:
"Onward and upward - I need to take care of myself!"  |
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Post by shamwow on Mar 8, 2017 19:01:58 GMT -5
My dick is still completely functional for when I get to the other side.
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Post by McRoomMate on Mar 9, 2017 2:01:38 GMT -5
Whether to stay, cheat, or leave is 100% PURE TOTAL OWNERSHIP by ME. No one can make that decision for me.
Am I one of the following:
1) FEAR based living and not taking action because of fear
or
2) GOAL based living and taking action because I seek a goal and can live with the risk of failure
If I make no decision, if I make no preparations, and If I take no actions, then NOTHING will change in my current situation.
So the Optimism is that it is ME AND ONLY ME that has this power in my hands. Do I use the power or not?
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Post by baza on Mar 9, 2017 4:08:21 GMT -5
YOU are holding the best card in the pack.
The leaving card, which trumps all other cards.
It is a BIG responsibility holding that card.
Whether to play it.
When to play it.
How to play it.
All *your* responsibility.
All *your* choice.
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Post by leifericson on Mar 9, 2017 7:25:32 GMT -5
No matter how bad it is, it could be worse.
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Post by GeekGoddess on Mar 9, 2017 8:10:19 GMT -5
I'm not dead yet & I decline to live as if I am. I'm grabbing life with all my limbs (& orifices).
Enjoy today, enjoy RIGHT NOW - it's always the only moment we are assured of having.
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Post by iceman on Mar 9, 2017 8:38:19 GMT -5
Is fantasizing that my wife runs away from home and never comes back a positive thought? It seems pretty positive from my perspective.
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Post by hopingforachange on Mar 9, 2017 8:54:29 GMT -5
No matter how bad it is, it could be worse. That's the line they say in the movies just before the aliens invade or a massive natural disaster hits. |
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Post by McRoomMate on Mar 9, 2017 10:08:17 GMT -5
Is fantasizing that my wife runs away from home and never comes back a positive thought? It seems pretty positive from my perspective. Can I control my wife? Honestly, NO I cannot. Can I really control anybody? Honestly, YES just one person I know of . . . and that is ME. So who would have to do the running if I want to be really sure someone to run? PS - in my first marriage I called it a "Domestic Cold War" - siege low intensity conflict - ice cold relations. she eventually sort of ran, but I would NOT suggest this approach - it was a long drawn out struggle and no guarantees of success. PPS - "ZIP CODE Therapy" works wonders but that would be your shoes that got the mileage if it is ever going to be in practice. |
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Post by McRoomMate on Mar 9, 2017 10:10:31 GMT -5
No matter how bad it is, it could be worse. This sounds like "fear based" decision making. The alternative "goal based" decision making has definitely more risks. It is a question of hedging risks and appetite for risk but never de-risked 100% never never. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 9, 2017 10:35:47 GMT -5
Normal women are sweet and sexual.
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Post by WindSister on Mar 9, 2017 11:16:30 GMT -5
BE the kind of person who lives the life you dream.
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Includes a couple steps:
1. Know what kind of life you want to lead (not just the kind of life you don't want)
2. Start LIVING IT NOW as best you can
This life you want to lead might include your current spouse if they wake up and join you, but most likely it will not include them. But the good news is you will be setting yourself up to attract the kind of person who you do want to join you on this journey.
I know that seems abstract as hell.
How I did it. "I want a life of passion, love, intimate connections, shared joys, adventures."
What I did while still married:
1. Told my husband this way of life we are living IS NOT working for me. Moved out of the bedroom (wake up call) and we "tried" to work it out for two years.
2. DURING those two years I honed into what I wanted (life of passion, love, intimate connections, shared joys, adventures") I started doing things I loved without apology. I asked my husband to join me, he usually declined or if he did join me he realized he pretty much hated doing all the things I enjoyed doing. I made friends in Meetup groups, I hurled myself out of my comfort zone, took on new challenges, adventures. Don't regret a single one. Towards the end I did dabble a bit with an AP (after telling my husband I would). And then left promptly thereafter.
3. After leaving, I just lived the life I dreamed more --
4. Now it is my life. No, it's not a fairy tale or perfect, I still have stuff I always have to work on to make sure I am giving the best and healthy for this relationship, but I DO have a life of passion, love, intimate connections, shared joys and adventures." 100%.
Hone in on what you WANT -- start living it.
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Post by McRoomMate on Mar 9, 2017 17:41:26 GMT -5
BE the kind of person who lives the life you dream. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Includes a couple steps: 1. Know what kind of life you want to lead (not just the kind of life you don't want) 2. Start LIVING IT NOW as best you can This life you want to lead might include your current spouse if they wake up and join you, but most likely it will not include them. But the good news is you will be setting yourself up to attract the kind of person who you do want to join you on this journey. I know that seems abstract as hell. How I did it. "I want a life of passion, love, intimate connections, shared joys, adventures." What I did while still married: 1. Told my husband this way of life we are living IS NOT working for me. Moved out of the bedroom (wake up call) and we "tried" to work it out for two years. 2. DURING those two years I honed into what I wanted (life of passion, love, intimate connections, shared joys, adventures") I started doing things I loved without apology. I asked my husband to join me, he usually declined or if he did join me he realized he pretty much hated doing all the things I enjoyed doing. I made friends in Meetup groups, I hurled myself out of my comfort zone, took on new challenges, adventures. Don't regret a single one. Towards the end I did dabble a bit with an AP (after telling my husband I would). And then left promptly thereafter. 3. After leaving, I just lived the life I dreamed more -- 4. Now it is my life. No, it's not a fairy tale or perfect, I still have stuff I always have to work on to make sure I am giving the best and healthy for this relationship, but I DO have a life of passion, love, intimate connections, shared joys and adventures." 100%. Hone in on what you WANT -- start living it. Thank-you for coming back and sharing your experience and journey. I am taking notes !!! |
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Post by snowman12345 on Mar 9, 2017 23:09:46 GMT -5
Coffee, bacon and blowjobs. All are my most positive thoughts!
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