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Post by WindSister on Mar 8, 2017 12:35:27 GMT -5
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Post by baza on Mar 8, 2017 20:59:58 GMT -5
When you read something that you pretty much agree with, and it aligns pretty closely to ones own views on life, it is very easy to go 'over the top' in praising an article. Possibly, that is exactly where I find myself after reading this - brilliant - piece by this Mark Manson bloke. So apply appropriate discounts to my opinion. I reckon this bloke has hit it out of the park. Where I was 10 years ago was pretty much down to the choices I had made up until then. Where I am now is pretty much down to the choices I made from then. And where I'll be in another 10 years is pretty much going to be down to the choices I make from today. This choice = consequence concept is in my opinion, an immutable life law, and there is no escaping it. You, me, anyone, don't get to "sit this one out". You choose, and you reap the reward / penalty that the choice produces as a consequence. Or, you don't choose, and you reap the reward / penalty that that non choice produces as a consequence. Choice is a bitch. But no-one gets a pass on it. If you choose, there WILL be consequences. If you don't choose, there WILL be consequences. So the only game in town is "choice". And your, my, our, job is to make these choices on a fully informed basis. Thanks for the link Sister WindSister. The article really resonated with me. |
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Post by McRoomMate on Mar 9, 2017 10:52:19 GMT -5
Thank-you EXCELLENT to read.
It is the SAME MESSAGE if I bother to pay attention that SM showed me.
At first it was 100% her, then 50/50, now I just do not give a hoot.
It is 100% me? Fault? Maybe, Responsibility: Oh Hell Yes. I own my problems 100% and ONLY me, myself, and I can fix them.
Well with a little help from the Almighty, but still the Lord helps those that help themselves . . . so still ME at the end of the day.
I remember years ago watching Disney's Cinderella with my 4 year old daughter. Cinderella just sits there and waits for the Fairy God Mother . . . helpless / totally dependent on Fairy God Mother. No, Cinderella could take action herself. I think that is the essence of a Fairy Tale . .. Waiting for the Fairy God Mother to DO something, but Noooooo it is us that must do something and then what ? We do the foot work , Results in God's hands (or the Universe if you are atheist or insert "Super Power" here).
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Post by GeekGoddess on Mar 11, 2017 9:18:02 GMT -5
So fucking good.
I'm better about this thinking now, but just had a text exchange with Loverman yesterday that reminds me I still have work to do on it.
Thank you for the link!
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Post by snowman12345 on Mar 12, 2017 5:45:55 GMT -5
Great article! OK, I am going to reference my 3 year old granddaughter again. My wife, daughter, granddaughter and I were out to dinner one evening. My granddaughter was talking about a movie she loved. She said, "It makes me so happy!" I told her that it was nice that she liked the movie, but that she was the only one that can make her happy.
My daughter (the one with many failed relationships) looked at me as if I had grown a third eye. My wife (the one who cannot be intimate with me anymore) was silent. The three year old smiled at me and continued coloring on her placemat.
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Post by JMX on Mar 12, 2017 22:11:48 GMT -5
Roch comes to mind on this one. At least the first 1/3rd of this article.
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Post by GeekGoddess on Mar 13, 2017 11:12:04 GMT -5
Roch comes to mind on this one. At least the first 1/3rd of this article. It made me think of him too! I ended up sending the article link to Loverman. No reply though, but I know this is what I'm working toward - I have gotten pretty decent at taking responsibility for my own attitude in most areas of life but he really disrupts my thinking at times. Last Friday was a bad one. |
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