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Post by solodriver on Mar 7, 2017 2:59:34 GMT -5
I'm curious how anyone handles their refuser's birthday?
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Post by eternaloptimism on Mar 7, 2017 3:17:38 GMT -5
I'm curious how anyone handles their refuser's birthday?
When I loved him, before all this shit and before and he spent all our money on weed, I went all out. This year i got him a game from the kids, and aftershave (standard) and silk boxers. not because I wanted to get in them you understand...but because I've been after some for years for him and never managed to find them. But this year... poof like Magic, there they were. I think he's worn them a couple times.. they appeared in the laundry for me! card.... as generic as poss. No hearts! |
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Post by baza on Mar 7, 2017 3:22:33 GMT -5
solodriver - Back on 6 October 2016, you raised this birthday issue, at that time in respect to YOUR birthday. So my suggestion is this - Cast your mind back October 2016 and recall what sort of effort your missus made then to make your birthday a notable event back then. Match that level of effort yourself for her turn.
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Post by shamwow on Mar 7, 2017 6:04:19 GMT -5
Basically I take the kids out and buy her some iinexpensive jjewelry. She already tells my 16 year old daughter what she wants so it's easy. Maybe we go out eat too.
10-15 years ago? I went all out. Thinking about it I probably still should make it a special day but my heart no llonger is in it. My birthday is similar from her perspective.
I mean how excited can you get about a distant roommate's birthday?
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Post by tamara68 on Mar 7, 2017 9:14:28 GMT -5
Our birthdays have always been boring. This year I won't be there on his birthday. I feel a bit sorry for him. He turns 50 next month and nobody will be there for him.
My birthday is in a few weeks. I will be alone too. Don't have ideas about how to spend it yet.
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Post by iceman on Mar 7, 2017 11:28:01 GMT -5
I hate birthdays, and Valentine's Day, and anniversaries. Those days when we attempt to put on an act and appear to be romantic. My wife's birthday is coming up. She'll tell me what she wants. I'll take the kids out to buy her something from them. I'll bake her a cake. We'll either go out for dinner as a family if she wants. More likely, since she's basically an antisocial hermit, we just have dinner and cake at home.
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Post by leifericson on Mar 7, 2017 11:34:03 GMT -5
Birthdays were never a big deal but I usually buy her something nice and we go out to eat. Next year is a big one and she said she wants to go away on a trip with or without me.
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 7, 2017 11:50:56 GMT -5
Birthdays were never a big deal but I usually buy her something nice and we go out to eat. Next year is a big one and she said she wants to go away on a trip with or without me. Tell her your going with her, to make sure she doesn't get pregnant! (there's supposed to be humor in that....please don't take it any other way  ) ah69.wordpress.com/2010/12/08/wife-gets-pregnant-during-vacations/ |
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Post by solodriver on Mar 7, 2017 13:44:04 GMT -5
I bring up these occasions for discussion as an opportunity for everyone to share what happens in their SM at those times, for both myself and others. We all have to deal with them in our SMs and I enjoy seeing how others handle them.
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