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Post by McRoomMate on Mar 6, 2017 18:35:29 GMT -5
What SYNCHRONICITY . . . Over the week-end I told My oldest daughter, my Mother, who then told my Father. I swore them to Secrecy.
I am also in a state where I just assume at any given moment my W will confront me . . . and I am so ready that it does not matter. It will just expedite the process. The main problem is I am still a bit financially dependent on my W as she is my Boss at work . . . but I am working on arranging my sources of income to become financially independent - ideally first but I have enough preparation where it could all go down tomorrow and I would be able to pull it off.
Yes it is all in the Preparation . . . it is a big event but as "All is Fair in Love and War" so too are plans that get interrupted so adapt, improvise, and overcome. I am prepared enough both money in the bank and courage in my heart.
I almost want the LEAKS - maybe you sort of do too? I agree with the other posts that the "Universe is helping you along" - You could even say God is helping you along. Personally, I am not very religious but I do believe God or the Universe or the Tao or whatever you want to call It does send signals and signs and things can sort of magically happen synchronistically and harmoniously - sometimes not so apparent but afterwards yes it makes sense.
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Post by shamwow on Mar 6, 2017 18:52:14 GMT -5
Holy shit, I'm so sorry that happened, Lyn. It's always terrible when somebody you've taken into your confidence betrays that trust. Is there anybody else you think you'd be able to trust or lean on for support now? Thanks CT - yeah- it really sucks especially when I consciously avoided this conversation for 11 years with all of my friends and family, and only very recently decided to share it as part of this every changing exit plan. One thing I've decided, I won't share this with anyone else IRL - until after my actual exit which may be happening sooner rather than later. I do have someone in my corner that I do trust would never betray my confidences - thank god. xx Even if you can trust someone, bear in mind that as soon as you tell someone you lose some control. In my case I had a long phone conversation with my sister the other night. I have already announced to my wife but we want to keep it under wraps until we are ready to tell the kids. The conversation was actually kind of funny in a way. When I explained to my sister it has been coming up on 3 years since my wife and I had sex her question was how the blow jobs were. Funny how people just don't GET what a SM is sometimes lol. But when on the phone with her I guess my brother in law overheard part of the call and put 2 and 2 together. So even with the best of intentions it can get out. I'm glad to hear you have someone you can trust implicitly. I've got someone like that too. In my case I think it helps that person has been trough a SM of their own. |
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Post by leifericson on Mar 6, 2017 19:05:25 GMT -5
I'm a huge advocate of sharing your sm struggle with a few people very close to you IRL. Especially if you're actively working on an exit plan. HOWEVER, when you do decide to share, be very careful of who you do choose to tell. As I have unfortunately realized very recently, that the three people in my life that I have opened up to about this (or even just the fact that my marriage is dead and Im planning to leave) have all felt compelled to share with people outside of my immediate support network. One, yesterday, actually told my Husband. SO....... exit plans are great and all, as long as the information isn't shared with the person you're leaving. The point of this is really to just be very very careful who you speak to about this IRL. Especially if you're working with a specific timeframe and are planning an exit. If you do choose to share your situation (which I do think is necessary to a degree) just make sure you swear them to secrecy - something I neglected to do but honestly didn't think was needed. Sometimes those we care about tend to gossip - maybe not maliciously, but it can sure throw a wrench in your plans. A little food for thought. That sucks big time Lyn. You are a better person than me. I would not forgive my mother so fast for the indiscretion. She should be totally on your side and keep your confidences. Sounds very interfering to me. By nature I am a very private person away from here and share nothing with anyone, even after it happens. in any event, either your husband doesn't believe you would dare to make the move or he has his own exit plan. This too you shall overcome. |
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Post by leifericson on Mar 6, 2017 19:12:04 GMT -5
Got a secret
Can you keep it?
Swear this one you'll save
Better lock it, in your pocket
Taking this one to the grave
If I show you then I know you
Won't tell what I said
'Cause two can keep a secret
If one of them is dead?
- The Pierces
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Post by McRoomMate on Mar 7, 2017 1:15:41 GMT -5
Got a secret Can you keep it? Swear this one you'll save Better lock it, in your pocket Taking this one to the grave If I show you then I know you Won't tell what I said 'Cause two can keep a secret If one of them is dead? - The Pierces Very nice . . . I am putting this one "in my pocket" Sort of reminds me of the Pirates of the Caribbean "Dead men tell no tales . . . " |
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