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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 19:03:55 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you're feeling so down! Depression feeds itself by keeping you immobilized - it's incredibly hard to break that cycle. I needed medication and talk therapy to get me on the road to healing. I think your idea of doing volunteer work is excellent - sometimes helping others ends up helping ourselves. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but all I can really offer is sympathy.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 20:23:27 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you're feeling so down! Depression feeds itself by keeping you immobilized - it's incredibly hard to break that cycle. I needed medication and talk therapy to get me on the road to healing. I think your idea of doing volunteer work is an excellent - sometimes helping others ends up helping ourselves. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but all I can really offer is sympathy. I think the fact that you understand is enough. Isn't that what we all need, someone to understand? Thank you. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 23:53:53 GMT -5
Volunteer work is a good idea, and so are support groups. This is going to sound corny and not at all like me, but I have found that I really do feel better when I try to help other people. I'm not sure *why* that works....but it works.
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Post by beguiledcinderella on Apr 28, 2016 0:48:28 GMT -5
I'm sorry you are feeling so down.
I accidentally got a very challenging puppy a couple of years ago now. She has grown into a challenging adult dog as well. She's too smart for her own good (and mine). It has ended up as a very happy accident, because to keep her brain busy I started taking classes with her. Training her and taking classes has ended up being immensely rewarding. Sometimes you never know when a bright spot is just around the corner!
Our latest classes are in scent discrimination and nosework. We are having tons of fun!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2016 7:05:54 GMT -5
Volunteer work is a good idea, and so are support groups. This is going to sound corny and not at all like me, but I have found that I really do feel better when I try to help other people. I'm not sure *why* that works....but it works. I think volunteer work is the way to go, but I have to find something I find mentally and emotionally stimulating or it will be just going through the motions, and that will deplete my energy rather than increase it. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2016 7:13:03 GMT -5
I'm sorry you are feeling so down. I accidentally got a very challenging puppy a couple of years ago now. She has grown into a challenging adult dog as well. She's too smart for her own good (and mine). It has ended up as a very happy accident, because to keep her brain busy I started taking classes with her. Training her and taking classes has ended up being immensely rewarding. Sometimes you never know when a bright spot is just around the corner! Our latest classes are in scent discrimination and nosework. We are having tons of fun! I love dogs, and miss mine terribly. They are the ones who kept me going for all those years of my SM. I wrote a story about my comforters (as they were) on EP, maybe I'll repost here somewhere. I would love another dog, and I've been so tempted, but it would not be fair to the dog or myself. I can't afford it now I'm single, and I don't have the big house anymore, just a tiny apartment. If I do go back to work at some point, I don't want it left all day by itself. I'm left all day (and night) by myself, and it's lonely. I wouldn't do that to a dog. I'm so happy for you. They are immensely rewarding. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2016 8:34:12 GMT -5
I accidentally got a very challenging puppy a couple of years ago now. She has grown into a challenging adult dog as well. She's too smart for her own good (and mine). It has ended up as a very happy accident, because to keep her brain busy I started taking classes with her. Training her and taking classes has ended up being immensely rewarding. Sometimes you never know when a bright spot is just around the corner! Our latest classes are in scent discrimination and nosework. We are having tons of fun! I love dogs, and miss mine terribly. They are the ones who kept me going for all those years of my SM. I wrote a story about my comforters (as they were) on EP, maybe I'll repost here somewhere. They are immensely rewarding. What about volunteering at an animal shelter? Just yesterday, I saw two Animal Shelter volunteers taking dogs on a trail walk as I was finishing my run. Those were some very happy dogs! |
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Post by itsjustus on Apr 29, 2016 18:15:58 GMT -5
It's such a vicious cycle, isn't it? Round and round. The drain of the loneliness on your enthusiasm, then fighting yourself to get up and....sit right back down. I know the feeling. Catch 22... But the baby steps are what I think are the key, like your presentation. Low expectations from you, but different faces, different voices. Maybe approach the presenter afterwards, just to say you enjoyed their presentation. Tell them they helped you understand something new to you. It's amazing how it can help you validate yourself, that you are a considered, thinking person still. It helps break the cycle. I think we all have to find a purpose, a reason to be. But I refuse to say or think my romantic life is over. I left a long soul deadening marriage, found a love, and lost that. As painful as that's been, I found something that was so invigorating, so unknown to me, that I can't sit back and say it's over. I've no idea what the future holds, but if getting out is what it takes to find some similance of that again, I'll do it. If getting out is what I need to do to find purpose, then I'll just have to do it. But first....I've got another show I've got to binge watch on Netflix....sigh....  |
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