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Post by bballgirl on Mar 1, 2017 11:01:39 GMT -5
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Post by WindSister on Mar 1, 2017 14:52:48 GMT -5
~ Never Settle ~
Pay attention to those Red Flags, Intuition, etc!
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Post by Dan on Mar 1, 2017 16:42:06 GMT -5
Great article for men and women here. I think a lot of us are fixers, especially men. This article was very insightful! Thanks for the pointer! A pretty good article. FWIW... I think I'm one of those men who are "fixers". In fact I just posted this on a different thread: From my current vantage point, I can now see it was that HOPE of fixing our sex life that lead me to still "stay in love" with her. There are many reasons I had this hope: a) I'm generally an optimist, b) I'm generally a "can do/let's fix this" kinda guy, c) I'm an engineer; I'm really good at fixing things, d) the consequences of it not being fixable were too hard to accept. So I was calling myself out just ahead of me seeing you post this! |
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Post by obobfla on Mar 1, 2017 18:53:23 GMT -5
As for red flags, I guess I have been colorblind. Seeing how all my wife's tests turn out to select my next course of action.
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Post by bballgirl on Mar 1, 2017 19:28:15 GMT -5
As for red flags, I guess I have been colorblind. Seeing how all my wife's tests turn out to select my next course of action. I hope your wife gets good results and gets to feeling better. |
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Post by obobfla on Mar 1, 2017 19:53:13 GMT -5
As for red flags, I guess I have been colorblind. Seeing how all my wife's tests turn out to select my next course of action. I hope your wife gets good results and gets to feeling better. She had a biopsy done on both breasts yesterday. Will get the results next Friday. Now, I have to arrange tests with the gynecologist and heart doctor. |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Mar 1, 2017 23:44:06 GMT -5
Hear! Hear! Great article.
It's right in line with ideas I've been thinking on lately too. I'm quitting my old fixing habit. I have an eye out for the new guy needing too much fixing (so far, he hasn't but my Ex didn't when I first met him either - it came in later).
Great read!
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Post by baza on Mar 2, 2017 0:30:44 GMT -5
It is hard enough to pick up ones' own pieces.
Trying to pick up someone else's' pieces as well is a complete non-starter.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2017 13:21:11 GMT -5
"Fixing" is a major problem I had in my deal with Mr. Kat. I was (and still am, I admit) so worried about what I did do/didn't do/could do to fix him, fix myself, fix the relationship.
Maybe I would have a more peaceful life if I could stop worrying about fixing psychological things.
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Post by baza on Mar 4, 2017 17:53:33 GMT -5
Personally, in the aftermath of leaving my ILIASM deal, I found plenty of my own shit to sort out. Plenty. (that's ongoing to this day)
*Sometimes* as I sort out some of my own shit - and as a byproduct - I get a real insight into some of the shit my ILIASM deal involved.
*Sometimes* as I sort out some of my own shit, I get a big insight into my relationship with Ms enna.
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Post by hopingforachange on Mar 8, 2017 7:41:35 GMT -5
Great article for men and women here. I think a lot of us are fixers, especially men. This article was very insightful! Thanks for the pointer! A pretty good article. FWIW... I think I'm one of those men who are "fixers". In fact I just posted this on a different thread: From my current vantage point, I can now it was that HOPE of fixing our sex life that lead me to still "stay in love" with her. There are many reasons I had this hope: a) I'm generally an optimist, b) I'm generally a "can do/let's fix this" kinda guy, c) I'm an engineer; I'm really good at fixing things, d) the consequences of it not being fixable were too hard to accept. So I was calling myself out just ahead of me seeing you post this! Crap, reading your post made me realize I am in the same boat. Except replace engineer with sociology/ project manager area.😐😓😟 |
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