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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2017 8:03:29 GMT -5
The problems that we all face are complex and each tale is unique. We have all also learnt quite a bit to help cope with our situations. There is a lot of very very good advice out there in all the threads and a lot of them are very detailed which greatly helps. I thought it might also help if we all tried to identify our most important lesson and crystallise it into one sentence to share with the community.
To start off, my one piece of wisdom would be the following -
- it is by no means mainstream and not for everyone but do explore chakra/energy cleansing. Google "chakra cleansing or chakra rebalancing"
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Post by McRoomMate on Feb 27, 2017 9:19:20 GMT -5
Well worth posting this subject - being in an SM shithole, gathering the force / will to try to fix it or leave.
Some say "Pain is the Touchstone of Spiritual Progress" and when WE find ourselves to belong on this Forum . . . focusing on Spirituality / God or Chakras - yes I am not ultimately in charge of anything.
Many of us, me for sure, have been guilty of "FEAR based living" so there are other options - cultivate a trust and belief in God or Whoever/Whatever you want to call it and "revolutionizing" our selves via "GOAL based Living" or "FAITH based living." Lord knows I have a lot of internal work to get from Point A to Point B.
Saving ourselves from the SM shithole is ultimately ACTS of faith/courage/hope as opposed to the parallyzed fear of staying in them.
Will google Chakra cleaning . . . but probably not my thing (I am too Occidental Western).
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Post by endthegame on Feb 27, 2017 10:20:12 GMT -5
It isn't me. Never was.
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Post by tamara68 on Feb 27, 2017 10:31:28 GMT -5
There is only one who can change your situation, change your life and that is You! Don't be afraid and trust yourself.
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Feb 28, 2017 1:20:00 GMT -5
Be who you want to be; don't pretend to be the person you think they want (because you wouldn't be here if that was working).
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Post by baza on Feb 28, 2017 2:03:47 GMT -5
Like it or not, you are in the business of choice.
And no-one gets a pass.
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Post by Rhapsodee on Feb 28, 2017 3:00:59 GMT -5
Your refuser will not change. They are who they are. Give yourself permission to do what you need to do to take care of yourself.
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Post by snowman12345 on Feb 28, 2017 7:06:39 GMT -5
Never wash your socks in the toilet. (I have learned many lessons from my 3 year old granddaughter.)
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Post by leifericson on Feb 28, 2017 11:18:16 GMT -5
You can't change anyone who doesn't want to change. Your refuser will not change ever.
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Post by solodriver on Feb 28, 2017 13:00:46 GMT -5
Your refuser will not change. They are who they are. Give yourself permission to do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Thank you Rhapsodee, that is awesome!!!! |
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Post by WindSister on Feb 28, 2017 13:06:36 GMT -5
Be honest.
Be direct.
It's actually cruel to lead someone on for fear of "hurting them."
Be honest.
Be direct.
After that, you are not responsible for how they take it/feel/get hurt.
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Post by csl on Feb 28, 2017 14:02:55 GMT -5
My mantra on my blog: If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got. Couple that with the wisdom of Bob Newhart: Stop It! |
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Post by unmatched on Feb 28, 2017 20:57:45 GMT -5
Listen to your feelings. They will tell you everything you need to know.
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Post by lwoetin on Feb 28, 2017 23:54:57 GMT -5
"Sufficient to the day is the evil thereof." Stay calm and enjoy your cups of coffee or tea.
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Post by darktippedrose on Mar 4, 2017 3:04:50 GMT -5
You are not crazy. There is nothing wrong with wanting sexual and nonsexual intimacy with your spouse.
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