You two just need to date

4. I wish my husband would leave me alone....You don't know how lucky you have it.

Dan, you tease! You got me excited there that those websites were actual, real things!

As an entertaining aside, I once had four female neighbors in an apartment complex who decided one drunken night to make a contest of who could get laid first via a date on Christian Mingle. If I remember right, it was within 12 hours of seeing up her profile for the girl who won.

OK, that will be my third new website: www.drunkenchristianmingle.com.

Tag line:  "Set up your profile on Friday night, and we expect you'll get your bell run before the church does on Sunday."

This is the biggest thing I'm hearing from those I'm coming out to. Do they really believe I didn't date my husband? Why can't people say, "I'm sorry, I know you two lost something special. If you need me call."

1. You two just need to date.

Yes, we did. I arranged every single thing. I dressed, I found childcare, I gave that man a good time. If I stopped...It all stopped.

2. You just need to make sex happen. You be the one who starts it.

Again, I've been doing this. If the full body panty hose leotard with the proper openings and the near prostituting of my heart means anything, I have done this! I've done things none of my friends do. In fact, giver of advice, you think a Bj or oral sex on yourself is disgusting. We aren't talking about prude sex with a woman who is just getting through it. I'm talking I fulfilled every fantasy most men have! Sometimes in one night!

3. Pray together for God to restore your marriage.

Look, I've dragged him to couples groups, prayed, set up an outlined curriculum to study together. This isn't God's fault. Not mine.


4. I wish my husband would leave me alone....You don't know how lucky you have it.


Yea, that's just great. Tell me again how you deprive your true love of affection and how blessed I am to not have to hat off advances.


5. He's a man, he has stress, he is tired.

Um, I'm a single parent of two chronically ill boys, homeschool, have worked/schooled/etc, have chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, and thyroid disease, but I've never used that excuse. I'm ready at any moment. Why does he get a pass on being a husband because he does one thing, work? He has no other responsibilities. He screwed our finances the year he took over because he wanted to "lighten" my load. We are now short selling our home to avoid foreclosure.




This mess is unreal! Did you hear this same crap? It's always how I should be OK. I have a hard working man. I always need to be more or need less. It has me tearful. Just hear me! See me! Understand I've killed my soul chasing, begging, being what he needs. I'm broken.

Everyone knows I'm not a quitter. I give 150%. I love fiercely my people. I dig deep to give more.

I can't even imagine you guys here hearing your a sex crazed maniac when it is so much more than the act of sex.

There, I've had my freak out. I'm going to go for a walk before I eat my feelings. 😖