Beginning Therapy

RexCorvus
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Beginning Therapy Feb 16, 2017 0:06:00 GMT -5 via mobile GeekGoddess, tamara68, and 4 more like this

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Post by RexCorvus on Feb 16, 2017 0:06:00 GMT -5

I am starting therapy tomorrow and I am truly excited about going. I have done enough self analysis especially over the past 7 or 8 years that I do feel as though I know myself very well. I can see the path clearly that lead me here but I am excited about learning new tools and receiving validation.

I have made tremendous strides in ending the manipulation. I have declared that I am not happy in my marriage, that it is not fixable, and that I want a divorce. I have taken control and left our bed and moved to an old mattress and box spring in the basement. This is taking one step closer to freedom and the love I want, need and deserve.

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The therapist is great! I felt completely comfortable and she absolutely understood where I am at, what I am wanting to accomplish, what issues I have, and that I am open and willing to learn new tools to be a healthier person.

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baza Senior Members Tread your own path Posts: 5,556	Beginning Therapy Feb 16, 2017 1:09:50 GMT -5 GeekGoddess, cc, and 2 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by baza on Feb 16, 2017 1:09:50 GMT -5 Whatever you can do to "value add" in respect to your support network gets my vote. An "Exit Counsellor" seems like a great idea.

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Beginning Therapy Feb 16, 2017 9:37:41 GMT -5 GeekGoddess, cc, and 1 more like this

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Post by lakeside4003 on Feb 16, 2017 9:37:41 GMT -5

having been to many therapy sessions with my wife and solo - I agree there's lots of upside. To feel validated was a huge 'release' for me - and finding this site was also so helpful in realizing 'it's not all on me'.

Both the therapist we were seeing together and the one I see solo have validated my thinking & feelings so much more that my wife could ever have done, especially as she was very used to playing the DARVO cards. She's pissed to now having been 'boxed into a corner' - but if you have a good therapist and open, honest dialogues - the reality of the situation will come into the light.

good luck - keep us posted (I found I did most of my posting after our weekly sessions)

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