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Post by bballgirl on Feb 10, 2017 14:07:15 GMT -5
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Post by jim44444 on Feb 10, 2017 14:19:16 GMT -5
FUCK
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Post by bballgirl on Feb 10, 2017 14:37:12 GMT -5
Yeah! To the word complacency I would also add Indifference. Not love not hate but Indifference. |
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Post by jim44444 on Feb 10, 2017 16:06:02 GMT -5
But what if bballgirl - what if after a long life of traversing those fields of anger, joy, angst, ecstacy and every other strong emotion - what if all that is left, all that the soul has room for is complacency and indifference is its guardian? |
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Post by baza on Feb 10, 2017 16:32:40 GMT -5
Liked the referenced post.
It again hilights the two stand alone issues common to ILIASM shitholes (and dysfunctional relationships generally).
#1 - being the necessity to get out of the shithole environment, and the case for that needs to stand up all by itself, independent of any other factors.
#2 - being where you may steer your life post ILIASM shithole. And that has to stand up all by itself too.
Brother Vegas (from back in the old EP group) had a saying in respect to ones' direction post ILIASM shithole. He said (words to the effect) "You want a guarantee ? Then buy a toaster".
Harsh, but true.
The woman in the article certainly appears to have managed to keep the two things separate.
She appears to have made the call to end the marriage for all the right reasons.
She appears to have come out the other end with a lot of her shit sorted out, and appears to be in a state of readiness for whatever comes next.
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Post by bballgirl on Feb 10, 2017 18:14:25 GMT -5
But what if bballgirl - what if after a long life of traversing those fields of anger, joy, angst, ecstacy and every other strong emotion - what if all that is left, all that the soul has room for is complacency and indifference is its guardian? I don't have room in my life for a relationship that is complacent or indifferent. I want passion, fun, adventure and love. If there's not a man that I find that with then I'm ok not being in a relationship. I do have a lot of friends, a FWB, I date here and there so my life isn't boring. I'm not sure if this answers your question. |
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Post by obobfla on Feb 10, 2017 19:13:58 GMT -5
I related so much to that story, even though I am male. It's not just sex with my wife. She doesn't read, watch TV, or listen to music. Occasionally, she will draw pictures. I gave her water color paints last Valentine's Day to bring her out of her shell and get her to smile. The only thing that seems to spark her is the cats we have. All other conversations involve bills, chores, and how the kid is doing in school.
Now I am someone who reads the first thing in the morning and before I go to bed at night. I watch TV and have to have music on when I drive. I need the intellectual stimulation as much as I need food. And I also need a woman who not only loves me but desires me. I think my wife does, but she has no comprehension of what I need as a man.
When I had my first affair, I found someone who found me attractive. Going through the crap with my wife, it was wonderful for a woman to give me that mischievous lustful look. Giving her orgasms meant more than having one of my own. I was a man again!
We and are relationships are like water. If we stay still, algae grows and we become unhealthy. We need the stimulation to move us, our minds, and our hearts along.
Sadly, my wife is staying still. I have to find ways to move on, but right now that's not possible. She is back in the hospital with low blood pressure, breathing problems, and a strange growth on her ovary. I can't leave with her in that condition, so I stay and try to find stimulation where and when I can.
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