Wanting Different not Better

You caught that too? I took it differently. Number one, I would have liked a lot more clarity about it. You can take that in too many different directions. Another way of looking at it was that he did attempt to keep the marriage going, but had been dealing with a controller, who refused to admit that any of it could be her fault. "I never took it lightly?" What does that mean? More manipulative, nothing, flowery words. Does that mean it always upset her greatly? What did she do about it? Was she one of those who would say, "I'll try harder" then do nothing? We have also read about people who are graysexual, they want "intimate connection" when it suits them, and no sex. Was she an "acts of service" person, and her husband was caught on the endless double bind, where it's never deep enough, and she claims it's evaporated? 

That's a lot of manipulative words that can cut both ways. How about actions? Like we discuss on here. Facts like," I ask and beg, and get rejected, going on three years now of no sex."

"I held all the power". I recall reading in another article about sex that the dominate one does not have the power. That actually the submissive one does. Without the consent of  the submissive one, the understanding, and mutual agreement before hand from the submissive one to the dominate one, the sexual act will not happen. The same can be said for a relationship, or a marriage. When I first read that one, I was like, "really?" then it seems to make sense the more i think about it.

Look at Lucy and the football. Charlie Brown is the dominant one, Lucy has to submit by simply holding the ball. Does she submit? No. who ends up being in control in the end? Lucy. (my favorite is when Charlie signs a contract. Lucy tells him as he's laying on his back, "funny thing about this document it was never notarized!")