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Apr 25, 2016 23:00:03 GMT -5
Post by unmatched on Apr 25, 2016 23:00:03 GMT -5
Sounds like you did the right thing! As we say in Australia: "Good on you!" (Wait... I'm not from Australia...)I am, well I am now anyway. And it is more like 'Good on yer'. If you try and pronounce the 'you' properly you get punched. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 25, 2016 23:53:42 GMT -5
The line originated in Goodfellas, but I like this guy's delivery better than the movie clip... This guy is pretty sharp. Just watched a couple of his other presentations. Thanks for sharing. |
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Apr 26, 2016 11:03:21 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2016 11:03:21 GMT -5
It is probably best to go to mediation. There you will not be having to wait for response to letters and the mediator will help you come to a settlement. I know it is terribly hard, but it will work out.
By the way, you have a really cute butt!
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 26, 2016 11:26:47 GMT -5
Good for you! This is good news! Your STBX does not deserve one concession. The thing is he could have had so many concessions if he had signed the last offer, or the one before that. But every time I thought we were in agreement, he added something. He got greedy and just wouldn't be reasonable. I finally realized it was never going to be enough - there would always be one more thing. He had to push me pretty far, but I finally hit my limit. Speaking from my own perspective here, but it sounds like these proceedings are indicative of a SM. Before you get what you want, there will always be one more thing needed, one more hoop to jump through, until finally we get sick of the shit, and tired of the run around, and only then do they realize they have pushed too far. If they didn't make the marriage so gd difficult, we wouldn't want out, now, they have to put their mark on that too?? Anyway, congrats. I hope things go better from here on out. |
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Apr 26, 2016 21:14:46 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2016 21:14:46 GMT -5
*Update* Well, I did it. I had my attorney withdraw all previous offers. We are currently preparing for the June 2nd court date where the judge will set temporary support orders and (hopefully) attorney's fees. Then we start preparing a new global settlement that is as typical as we can make it. I was crystal clear that I have no interest in pushing for more than is fair, that I will not play the sorts of games they have been playing. My attorney thinks with the help of a mediator, we can accomplish a global settlement without going to trial. I'm not so sure based on how difficult they've been so far, but at least I have a little hope trial can be avoided. One piece of good news is that the support will be retroactive to the beginning of April, so I'll be able to pay off any credit card debt I accrue during these last several weeks before my court date. That was a huge relief to me. Now I can focus on looking ahead to the end of my semester when I can start looking for a full time job. What does that mean with the support, that it starts now and he owes you a month? |
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Apr 27, 2016 8:01:02 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 8:01:02 GMT -5
One piece of good news is that the support will be retroactive to the beginning of April, so I'll be able to pay off any credit card debt I accrue during these last several weeks before my court date. What does that mean with the support, that it starts now and he owes you a month? Yes, even though my court date isn't until June, the court considers support to begin when I moved out of the family home (late March). When I leave court on June 2nd, he will have to pay me for April, May and June. I think this is going to come as a surprise to him since the most recent letter from his lawyer says that he will begin support in May if I withdraw my motion. I don't know where his lawyer is getting her information, but she is sadly uninformed about family law. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2016 12:35:42 GMT -5
What does that mean with the support, that it starts now and he owes you a month? Yes, even though my court date isn't until June, the court considers support to begin when I moved out of the family home (late March). When I leave court on June 2nd, he will have to pay me for April, May and June. I think this is going to come as a surprise to him since the most recent letter from his lawyer says that he will begin support in May if I withdraw my motion. I don't know where his lawyer is getting her information, but she is sadly uninformed about family law. Yeah that's kind of what I was wondering. His lawer should have advised him to start paying support as soon as you separated. Now he'll be socked with a bill for three months. His lawyer doesn't seem to have anyone's interest in mind but hers, mostly by dragging it out. . That's mostly his problem but it makes things interminaable for you. I would suspect that your lawyer's advice to be reasonable will prevail over her little circus. The law isn't fair so who knows, but it sounds like she's just trying to extract maximum billable hours from him. . |
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