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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2016 7:29:28 GMT -5
Is it resisting if I take care of my own needs on my own schedule so I don't even have any of those feelings when she is around?  That has been my modus operandi for the entire 7 yr marriage..... I got tired of the rejection so this helps avoid that feeling... |
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Post by cagedtiger on Aug 16, 2016 10:47:14 GMT -5
Is it resisting if I take care of my own needs on my own schedule so I don't even have any of those feelings when she is around? That has been my modus operandi for the entire 7 yr marriage..... I got tired of the rejection so this helps avoid that feeling... I used to wait until she was passed out in bed before I'd see to myself, hoping that maybe sometime she'd express an interest in having some fun. I quit doing that during the last sexless cycle before this one, where we went almost 4 1/2 months without, because I was tired of getting my hopes up. |
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Post by obobfla on Aug 16, 2016 11:32:01 GMT -5
Right now, if my wife came onto me and wanted sex, I would turn her down cold. It would not be payback of any kind; rather it's because I don't trust her with my feelings anymore. I've had them hurt too often by her. There have been too many times where she has ignored what I want, or led me on then turned around and said "I just want to cuddle." Maybe she does have feelings for me, but she doesn't have a clue how to show it. And I don't have the time to teach a 50-year-old woman how to show it. If she hasn't listened before, she won't listen now. But I think it is more of the fear she will lose me and the financial support I bring her. In that case, I would rather see a professional. Paying for sex would be more honest.
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Aug 16, 2016 12:54:08 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2016 12:54:08 GMT -5
Sounds like the damage has been done.
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Post by Caris on Aug 16, 2016 19:54:05 GMT -5
Chatter Fox, you are not alone. I went through this tug of war...go or stay...every day for 25-years. I'm not exaggerating, it was every single day. It was exhausting. I am now over 60. It started before my 37th birthday. I don't trust anyone, and doubt I ever will. I am single, but I'm burned out on pretty much everything. The longer it goes on, the more damage sustained to your own wellbeing. I hope you find a way to inner peace, and leave this state of purgatory. No good can come from it. Namaste
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That has been my modus operandi for the entire 7 yr marriage..... I got tired of the rejection so this helps avoid that feeling...
