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Post by warmways on Jan 26, 2017 17:09:06 GMT -5
Finally! She's calling me at 2:30.
please wish me luck.
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Post by iceman on Jan 26, 2017 17:12:56 GMT -5
Good luck!!! It's a big step! I'm trying get up the courage to make the same call myself. I have the attorney I'm going to call lined up but I want to carefully think about all the questions I want to ask.
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Post by ggold on Jan 26, 2017 17:15:03 GMT -5
Finally! She's calling me at 2:30. please wish me luck. Sending you positive vibes! |
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Post by warmways on Jan 26, 2017 17:23:07 GMT -5
Thank you!
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 26, 2017 17:52:26 GMT -5
Just a thought. Before I went to meet the 1st attorney I went online and googled "Questions to ask your divorce attorney". And I wrote out a list so I wouldn't forget anything. Good luck and positive thoughts for you.
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Post by bballgirl on Jan 26, 2017 18:00:41 GMT -5
Best of luck!
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jan 26, 2017 18:10:03 GMT -5
Good luck, and hope you get the information you need.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 26, 2017 20:35:09 GMT -5
Good luck!!! It's a big step! I'm trying get up the courage to make the same call myself. I have the attorney I'm going to call lined up but I want to carefully think about all the questions I want to ask. Ever hear the term worries verses concerns? Make the call, ask what to bring, how to dress. I found my fears quickly dissolved. Once there, you realize they have done this numerous times. You will have open fair questioned asked of you, and you will spend a great deal of time listening. Take notes, that will refine what they tell you, and lets them know you are interested in facts, not just emotion. Like the trust you put into the dentist when sitting in the chair (just had a root canal done today.... fun!) Your worries won't even be a concern until a day later when you might have more direct questions with your wealth of new information. These questions you can now ask another attorney, and do some shopping, while fine tuning what your need is. Yea... the first call or visit, don't worry so much, just be slightly concerned. I can be more specific of my questions, presented, and asked of me if anyone needs it. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 26, 2017 20:36:15 GMT -5
Finally! She's calling me at 2:30. please wish me luck. So, how did it go? |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2017 21:41:56 GMT -5
Hope it went well! Can't wait to hear!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2017 18:00:06 GMT -5
Hope it went well! Congratulations on taking the first step.
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Post by warmways on Jan 27, 2017 20:24:37 GMT -5
Hey, I had the phone consult this afternoon and the attorney seemed really nice, easy to talk to etc.
II was pretty organized with my questions but she had more questions / comments for me.
Maine is a state that doesn't require any reasons for wanting a divorce. It's called a no fault state and they just lump everything into irreconcilable difference for the reason.
She said she would seek spousal support for me if and that would be for half the marriage or in my case eight years
Downside is iId be equally responsible for all the credit card debt even if I didn't incur it and it's not in my name.
All of his computer and music assets I'd be eligible for half their worth.
I don't want the house so he'd have to refinance or find a way to pay mortgage and spousal support which I know he couldn't do at the same time.
She charges $175/hr. or I put 2500. Into an initial kitty and then she draws from that with every hour spent with me or working on the case. If it's resolved before the money is used up she returns what wasn't spent or in some cases if it draws on, I have to add to it
She said it could take from four months to two years depending but with my case not involving kids I could represent myself but she said it can get really overwhelming with complex paperwork and even though she's a lawyer, if she wanted a divorce, she herself would get a lawyer.
For some reason, my name is not on the mortgage I have to check the deed. I'm 99% sure it is on there and also I forgot what we paid for the house so there are still more facts and data I need to find.
It was kind of a scary step I was dreading all day but after talking to her I felt so empowered. Knowledge is power
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