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csl Senior Members Posts: 895	Faithfulness Jan 21, 2017 15:45:39 GMT -5 McRoomMate likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by csl on Jan 21, 2017 15:45:39 GMT -5 She has been faithful to the marriage. However, she has not been faithful to you. They aren't the same.
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Faithfulness Jan 21, 2017 17:07:25 GMT -5 McRoomMate likes this

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Post by Apocrypha on Jan 21, 2017 17:07:25 GMT -5

Jan 21, 2017 15:45:39 GMT -5 csl said:

She has been faithful to the marriage.

However, she has not been faithful to you.

They aren't the same.

Is she actually faithful to her conception of marriage? Really?
Did her ideal of marriage include committing to lifelong celibacy? If that had been in the vows, would she have taken them?

I'd warrant not. So, I doubt there's really much commitment to even her own idea of what marriage is, as opposed to other relationships. If she's as honest as Mrs Apocrypha, she might even cop to it, when posed that way.

I'd say she's invested in a partnership in whatever enterprise is left apart from a sexual relationship, with him, whatever you might call that.
But I doubt she would call that a marriage either, if she was doing it with intentionality.

rejected101 Senior Members Posts: 755	Faithfulness Jan 21, 2017 18:07:27 GMT -5 via mobile greatcoastal and lyn like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by rejected101 on Jan 21, 2017 18:07:27 GMT -5 To have and to hold

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Jan 20, 2017 18:06:56 GMT -5 flashjohn said:

Just had to throw this out there.

My refuser recently said that she had been completely faithful for 28 years. I asked her if she really thought that, after cutting me off for 6 years, and telling me that my penis just didn't work anymore. She looked me right in the eye and said yes, even with that, she had been completely faithful.

I am still floored by that statement.

And yes, I called her a REFUSER. After 6 years of no sex, she is NOT a wife. A wife wants to have sex with her husband and a husband wants to have sex with his wife. If for some reason he/she can't a wife or husband takes steps to remedy the problem. And a husband or wife would NEVER add insult to injury. Actually, I prefer the term REFUSING CHEATER.

I may be an unintelligent man, but given the scenario that you describe, i am really not getting how she figure that she could tell you that your equipment no longer works ...

He said you do need help my friend. I whispered: obviously.

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Faithfulness Jan 22, 2017 7:08:37 GMT -5 greatcoastal likes this

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Post by beachguy on Jan 22, 2017 7:08:37 GMT -5

Jan 20, 2017 18:30:00 GMT -5 flashjohn said:

Jan 20, 2017 18:15:43 GMT -5 baza said:

We appear to be talking semantics here.
So, your missus claim of "being faithful" has some validity in the sense that she has been "faithful to herself". That is to say, she has followed her personal moral compass (to avoid sex with you) quite faithfully.

But, let's agree with your summation that your missus is "a REFUSING CHEATER".

Now what

I have already moved out. Divorce will be filed shortly.

Then you've made clear that your definition of faithful is different than hers. Good for you, defining your boundaries.

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Post by csl on Jan 21, 2017 15:45:39 GMT -5

Post by Apocrypha on Jan 21, 2017 17:07:25 GMT -5

Post by rejected101 on Jan 21, 2017 18:07:27 GMT -5

Post by novembercomingfire on Jan 21, 2017 19:05:32 GMT -5

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