article: "How to have an affair and get away with it"

I found the article very odd.  Maybe just the writer's skill, but the whole affair seemed awkward, poorly motivated, and destined for an explosive conclusion.

She's happy with her marriage and relationship with her husband, but decides to have sex with a crush anyway, after dragging out the lead-up for months.  Then has a lame experience and forces a retry.  It seems like she was determined to make an affair with this particular guy happen.  But then he's a friend of her husband, whom she now works with?

This is the opposite of what I'd call the perfect affair.  Her motivations aside, it's the perfect explosive cocktail; she's setting herself up to be caught, and then have it all meltdown at work and affect her career (or at least her choice of workplaces).  There's a wise saying, "Even bears know that you don't shit where you eat."

She sees that all the relationship overlaps make a great cover for the affair, but really this makes the affair far more likely to be exposed because of a comment by a co-worker at an office gathering where either spouse is present.  And all the cover story details need to be in sync between both APs and their spouses, because there are so many ways the facts can get cross-checked through accidental comments.  And it won't go unnoticed that the two of them always end up taking the same business trips at the same time; there are only so many "conferences" you can go to a year, especially without a co-worker blowing up that cover story.  So many ways this can go wrong...

DryCreek I am with you. I don't see how this can possibly be a good thing. If you are lying to your partner then you are seriously undermining your relationship, regardless of whether you are caught or not. This isn't a moral judgement, but a practical one. It may well be the right thing to do in a SM, but even then taking that step does represent an acceptance that your relationship is already messed up.

The writer sounds very self centred and pleased with herself. Perhaps she is talking to the journalist because she thinks she's clever and will never get caught?

I agree! Total bullshit! Written just for entertainment. No way this went on for 9 years. Seriously if you're having an affair texting is part of the fun, granted 9 years ago that was with a flip phone and you had to hit each letter 2 or 3 times. Lol

I agree. It didn't sound to me like her marriage was lacking, OR that she was seriously in love with the other man. I don't think she's like the people here in ILIASM, in that she wasn't in dire circumstances.

What makes you think that a married woman wants 'feelings and shit'? Are you saying that women can't or won't have a purely sexual relationship? She may be a sociopath too!