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Post by bballgirl on Jan 12, 2017 8:47:28 GMT -5
I wouldn't want it everyday but if I was on vacation I would.
Also if I ever got in a relationship with someone I would like to have sex everyday for a week just to have done it. I've never had that.
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jan 12, 2017 12:57:08 GMT -5
I had a partner for almost 2 decades..... and we were connected mentally, emotionally, and sexually. We had sex a good 2 to 6 times a week. Sometimes more. This is how naive I was; I seriously thought it was normal to have sex that much. ( He was my 1st and love of my life) Not, until a life changing event occurred that shattered my world, as I knew it, did I found my self single and not by choice. I realized quickly what we had was extremely rare. I had no clue about ED, Sexless Marriages and other sexual issues. (Horrendous kissers and inability to give OS) I truly miss what I had, I had no idea how special it was! So, to answer the question at hand..... if it was with the right person, I could have sex 2-7 times a week and would enjoy it. I am sorry for your loss. And i think i understand it also. I once had what you describe as well, albeit for only about 5 years. I think about that relationship and never seem to get over mourning what we had and what could have been. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2017 17:22:12 GMT -5
Ideal for me would be twice a week during the work week then on the weekends depending on what is planned anything from a quickie to spending half the day in bed making love. My philosophy in everything I do has always been quality over quantity - talking, laughing, kissing, orgasms, staring into each other's eyes, etc. are all necessary components to having the quality and with all of that who the hell wouldn't want the quantity?! (That was a rhetorical question) All of the above. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2017 17:30:07 GMT -5
For me, its not the frequency that matters, its the enthusiasm. If you and your partner are enthusiastic about sharing each other's bodies, then the frequency will take care of itself. I totally agree. Frequency - Enthusiasm = 0 |
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Post by unmatched on Jan 12, 2017 21:53:12 GMT -5
I wouldn't want it everyday but if I was on vacation I would. Also if I ever got in a relationship with someone I would like to have sex everyday for a week just to have done it. I've never had that. That should definitely be high up on your bucket list |
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Post by ihadalove on Feb 13, 2017 0:47:14 GMT -5
If we're referring only to enthusiastic sex, I'd be down for a couple times a day most days. More realistically, 3-4 times a week would be fantastic!
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Post by iceman on Feb 13, 2017 10:51:08 GMT -5
For me it would 3-4 times/week. 2 times on the weekend when we can take our time, once during the week, more of a quickie, and maybe one more time during the week or on the weekend. Maybe Sunday morning sex after screwing our brains out the night before. Quality is the key though. Both of us need to be willing and fully engaged.
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Post by Dan on Feb 13, 2017 12:37:10 GMT -5
So I thought I would just put the feelers out on what people... [what] is the perfect amount of sex.... This is like asking "I just thought I'd ask out there: what is the perfect amount food and type of cuisine?" There will be as many answers as the number of people you ask. |
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Post by rejected101 on Feb 13, 2017 13:58:00 GMT -5
So I thought I would just put the feelers out on what people... [what] is the perfect amount of sex.... This is like asking "I just thought I'd ask out there: what is the perfect amount food and type of cuisine?" There will be as many answers as the number of people you ask. Hmm 🤔 I wouldn't have said that's true to be fair. Yes there are going to many many variables but I would guess (and was trying to establish) that there is a general commonality between most (not all) people. |
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Post by Apocrypha on Feb 13, 2017 14:44:43 GMT -5
The numbers are downstream from the source. Is sex a restorative thing or depletive?
If it's depletive with your partner, no amount is too little.
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Post by DryCreek on Feb 13, 2017 18:19:59 GMT -5
This is like asking "I just thought I'd ask out there: what is the perfect amount food and type of cuisine?" There will be as many answers as the number of people you ask. True. Most people, however, will agree that eating is important. ;-) |
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Post by darktippedrose on Feb 14, 2017 1:30:20 GMT -5
For me, I haven't had sex with someone that wasn't painful (because of no foreplay) and they pretended to be into it, I was 24.
If i had a partner that was loving, accepting, compatible with my sexuality/sexual identity, I'd probably want sex 2-4x a week.
but I'd need an unlimited amount of hugs, kisses, cuddles, etc. If I don't have cuddles or anything like that, I feel like crap.
so for me, its not just about sex, its also about feeling loved. Someone who won't make me feel unloved or cheap after sex. Someone who isn't repulsed by my skin.
I'm too disconnected from my husband to feel that way about my husband again.
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Post by Dan on Feb 14, 2017 22:34:42 GMT -5
The numbers are downstream from the source. Is sex a restorative thing or depletive? If it's depletive with your partner, no amount is too little. OMG! What a SIMPLE way to put your finger on the difference my wife and I have about sex! To her, the act was a chore. Something I was asking her to do for me, as if I was using up some capacity/energy of hers. For me, the act gave energy... and happiness, closeness, and all kinds of other good stuff for me, her, and the marriage. |
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Post by Apocrypha on Feb 15, 2017 13:49:42 GMT -5
The numbers are downstream from the source. Is sex a restorative thing or depletive? If it's depletive with your partner, no amount is too little. OMG! What a SIMPLE way to put your finger on the difference my wife and I have about sex! To her, the act was a chore. Something I was asking her to do for me, as if I was using up some capacity/energy of hers. For me, the act gave energy... and happiness, closeness, and all kinds of other good stuff for me, her, and the marriage. Yup. You are both in the same marriage, and YOU want sex. So it's likely not the marriage. If the marriage ends, it's unlikely that's the end of sex for her (as it was with my own wife, and countless other celibate-marrieds) - but nobody comes back from the only way to test that. But it's reasonable to say it's not the sex itself that is depletive, either. This can only be seen in hindsight. Which gets to the reason it hurts so much emotionally. On some level, the cognizant dissonance of the "I'm not into sex but I love you" is juxtaposed against what you intuitively know about the importance assigned to not having sex with you. Because it's damaging on some level to have sex that you don't want with someone. So, somewhere along the line, the disconnection reached that level of intensity and the dial just stuck there, running that program. |
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Post by cc on Feb 17, 2017 20:55:29 GMT -5
I don't have a number in mind. But I have never experienced being sated in this department. I would LOVE at this point once a week. But again, anything over 1 time every 3 months because I am crying and he feels badly would be nice.
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