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Post by baza on Jan 9, 2017 20:58:23 GMT -5
It sure does read like - if you actually did have the appropriate legal advice / exit strategy / support network etc plans in place to dump her in January that you are about to abandon them Brother CT.
There's nothing wrong with that either, it is a perfectly valid choice to stay in your deal, and the consequences of that choice are yours to own in the days yet to come.
It can be helpful to acknowledge (to yourself) that you are staying by your own choice.
This is not a situation being foisted upon you, you are not the victim here. This is your choice.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 9, 2017 20:58:29 GMT -5
As to whether I would go or stay is a decision I have already made. As to how I kick the bucket - I really like @thecelt scenario. More than likely I will trip over the dog and fall down the cellar stairs. Hahaha, reminds me off Jerry Reed in the song, "I've Been Framed." |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 15, 2017 13:41:39 GMT -5
I was talking with a friend last night about SM and finding happiness in your life as well as looking back on your life. So we proposed the questions: What if you were told you only had two years to live? Would you leave your SM? Would you outsource? What about ten years to live? For me the thought of how I wanted to look back on my life was a huge factor in deciding to divorce. Honestly I can die in a car crash an hour from now but 2016 was such a happy year for me that I have no regrets about choosing divorce. I also sacrificed some financial security and stability by becoming a single mother of two young children but I don't value things like I do experiences and relationships, I'm definitely a people person. If I were still married and found out I had 2 years then I would have stayed married but outsourced like crazy. Ten years - Divorce! Odds are we will be here ten years from now so what's your choice? A past life or death experience conditioned me to experience life from one moment to the next, not knowing if the next moment would be my last. As I got better, I started experiencing each day as though it would be my last. Then as more time passed, I allowed myself to live out each year as though it would be my last. Occasionally, I have to remind myself that I will eventually run out of years to live. That thought brings me back to living life moment by moment again. Tomorrow is promised to no one. So with all of that in mind, at this moment in time, I choose to outsource if given the opportunity to do so. |
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Post by McRoomMate on Jan 15, 2017 16:50:45 GMT -5
Excellent Threat Topic. I think this goes to the Heart of the Truth: There is only ONE LIFE to live - and death and old age are not that far away.
Suppose I fell madly in love with a new women - and it comes out of the blue - how many times in a life do two people fall madly in love with each other? It is a rare commodity precious and one should never abandon that. To go from years and years in a sexless Marriage - which really means much much more than simply no sex - and fall into a "Burning Fire" just like Johnny Cash sang.
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Post by shamwow on Jan 15, 2017 17:48:51 GMT -5
I should already be dead a half dozen times over. I sit here amazed that wasn't enough to live my life to the fullest.
Perhaps what this SM is for me is a "near life" experience. I can hope it will allow me to live the second half of it on MY terms. Not society , not family, not friends, and certainly not my wife who has not said "I Iove you" to me in 13 years . They have their lives and I have mine. They will be part of my life in the future, but they wil not direct it.
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Post by beachguy on Jan 17, 2017 10:56:38 GMT -5
Why bother with the mundane stuff Like getting a divorce. Time wasting etc.... I would get on the internet buy a round the world ticket, take off and probably die within a year in some ridiculous fashion and will live on for ever more in a YouTube video - man drowned to death by a gang of squirting hookers I've always joked about how I'll end up dying young-ish in some hilarious, but awesome accident in that same sort of vein. Going back to the original post, I've been asking myself this same question for the last week or so, a lot. The wife has claimed repeatedly that she's all better mentally and emotionally now that she's come off her birth control, and that she wants to do all the things I want to do, and is feeling super affectionate and had a sex drive again. I still don't fully trust it, and honestly, for where I really want to end up long term, I still don't see our goals fully meshing. Especially when / if I decide to enter the public sector. This is the baby trap most of us fell for, that were already in an SM before the ball and chain was conceived. Tread carefully my friend. And I can tell you from experience it only takes one time. |
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Post by beachguy on Jan 17, 2017 11:00:54 GMT -5
I've always joked about how I'll end up dying young-ish in some hilarious, but awesome accident in that same sort of vein. Going back to the original post, I've been asking myself this same question for the last week or so, a lot. The wife has claimed repeatedly that she's all better mentally and emotionally now that she's come off her birth control, and that she wants to do all the things I want to do, and is feeling super affectionate and had a sex drive again. I still don't fully trust it, and honestly, for where I really want to end up long term, I still don't see our goals fully meshing. Especially when / if I decide to enter the public sector. This is the baby trap most of us fell for, that were already in an SM before the ball and chain was conceived. Tread carefully my friend. And I can tell you from experience it only takes one time. , also beware of werewolf week. It's been joked about here, by the ladies. But it's true. If your wife suddenly shows passion, it's almost certainly her werewolf week and she's ovulating. I am sure now that this is the reason for so many near immaculate conceptions, including mine. It took me 30 years to figure out how that happened. It's nature trying to suck you in. |
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Post by lyn on Jan 17, 2017 13:38:42 GMT -5
This is the baby trap most of us fell for, that were already in an SM before the ball and chain was conceived. Tread carefully my friend. And I can tell you from experience it only takes one time. , also beware of werewolf week. It's been joked about here, by the ladies. But it's true. If your wife suddenly shows passion, it's almost certainly her werewolf week and she's ovulating. I am sure now that this is the reason for so many near immaculate conceptions, including mine. It took me 30 years to figure out how that happened. It's nature trying to suck you in. This is def not some phantasmic occurrence. It is very real. PAINFULLY real if you're a woman in a sm. Think blue balls........ but, blue BODY. Definitely sucks, no pun intended. Condoms - ribbed - lubed - flavored - whatever..... these are your friends cagedtiger  |
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Post by beachguy on Jan 17, 2017 13:56:19 GMT -5
cagedtiger, also beware of werewolf week. It's been joked about here, by the ladies. But it's true. If your wife suddenly shows passion, it's almost certainly her werewolf week and she's ovulating. I am sure now that this is the reason for so many near immaculate conceptions, including mine. It took me 30 years to figure out how that happened. It's nature trying to suck you in. This is def not some phantasmic occurrence. It is very real. PAINFULLY real if you're a woman in a sm. Think blue balls........ but, blue BODY. Definitely sucks, no pun intended. Condoms - ribbed - lubed - flavored - whatever..... these are your friends cagedtiger At the point he's at I would not trust the next 19 years of my life to a condom. But that's me and based on my experience |
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Post by lyn on Jan 17, 2017 14:01:04 GMT -5
This is def not some phantasmic occurrence. It is very real. PAINFULLY real if you're a woman in a sm. Think blue balls........ but, blue BODY. Definitely sucks, no pun intended. Condoms - ribbed - lubed - flavored - whatever..... these are your friends cagedtiger At the point he's at I would not trust the next 19 years of my life to a condom. But that's me and based on my experience Yea...... no kidding! |
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Post by cagedtiger on Jan 17, 2017 14:41:15 GMT -5
At the point he's at I would not trust the next 19 years of my life to a condom. But that's me and based on my experience Yea...... no kidding! Well fortunately she's not tried for more than a hug. I think things have regulated back to normal- she's been down with first a massive cluster headache, and now with a sore back (from moving stuff around the house on Saturday). It's apparently my turn now to sleep in the bedroom, as she's been staying up and sleeping on the couch the last couple of days. |
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