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Post by baza on Jan 6, 2017 23:30:47 GMT -5
I gather that this resource you refer to was NOT found during a stage of frantic and urgent research by your missus, desperate to identify her issues and start some hard and challenging work on them.
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But rather, it was discovered by YOU.
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Is there any evidence of your missus being in a process of frantic and urgent research, desperate to identify her issues and start some hard and challenging work on them ??
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Post by beachguy on Jan 8, 2017 15:40:33 GMT -5
Sexual anorexia is just intimacy aversion by another name. The real world probabilities of successful treatment is near zero, after many years of intensive therapy
It should just be considered another orientation, like asexuality. Then it would be politically incorrect to even discuss changing them. Thus saving years of futile waiting and effort
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Post by lakeside4003 on Jan 10, 2017 13:24:12 GMT -5
just got back from weekly marriage therapy and this specific topic was discussed. Therapist suggested my W come alone next week to discuss if she's open to considering some more specific counseling for her avoidance. She undoubtedly felt boxed into a corner - but it's where she needs to work from.
FWIW, Sexual Anorexia can take different forms and varying levels of intensity of avoidance - my W can enjoy sex (she's a very attractive woman), just never initiates, avoids (entirely) similar bedtimes and is more comfortable blaming my moods (frustration and depression and all that comes with it)for our SM. She also disputes the frequency of any sex - but as we all know, we tend to have a sharp awareness of how infrequently it occurs!
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Post by baza on Jan 10, 2017 22:31:10 GMT -5
The treatment for *sexual anorexia* can also take varying levels too.
The most popular treatment avoidant spouses use is "none".
Next, there is "begrudgingly attending therapy".
Then, there's "deflecting the problem back on the spouse".
And the old standby "the therapist is a dud / I don't like the therapist".
As these *treatments* play out, the clock keeps running, and soon enough, it's January 2018
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