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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 2, 2017 18:32:11 GMT -5
My first reaction was to remain in our school district at all costs and attempt to make this whole transition of the remaining 4 yrs of high school as easy as possible. I was informed today, that I do not have to stay in that school district, that the child, can be registered with one household. We are considering one week on one week off. Their will be two downsides to it. There will be no school bus, and kids in the upcoming neighborhood will go to a different school.
Then there's the reality of how we have been living. Many of the kids in our neighborhood don't go to the public school, they go to private schools, and we spent the past ten years homeschooling. I have seen several families that both work and drive there kids to school every day, and manage to drive them home. They seem to never have any friends over, and just text each other all day.
We live on the edge of a school district. Choosing other school districts opens up a much larger option of housing for me.
A second factor in my rather unique situation. I will be needing enough house for 4 to 5 teens, then every year for the next 4 years another one is old enough to be graduating H.S. and moving on. So in 2 yrs I am down to 2 teens. 4 yrs, one or none. A strong part of me wants to buy now. I will have enough to pay in full.
Lots to think about. While in this state of limbo, waiting for the divorce process.
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Post by bballgirl on Jan 2, 2017 18:44:33 GMT -5
When we divorced we figured the divorce alone was enough change for the kids so we didn't change schools. I do not recommend living too far from your ex. Change of zip code - yes! A lot of times kids forget things or you have to bring them something and time is a commodity. Twenty minutes max is my recommendation for easing the transition for the kids. As far as the schools, check out school grades and see what programs the different high schools have to offer to meet your kids needs. Everything works out!
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 2, 2017 18:56:16 GMT -5
When we divorced we figured the divorce alone was enough change for the kids so we didn't change schools. I do not recommend living too far from your ex. Change of zip code - yes! A lot of times kids forget things or you have to bring them something and time is a commodity. Twenty minutes max is my recommendation for easing the transition for the kids. As far as the schools, check out school grades and see what programs the different high schools have to offer to meet your kids needs. Everything works out! Thank you for that friend! Half my kids are done with H.S., but I still have the other 3 to think about. A little more detail. If I go 2 miles North, I am in a different school district and that opens up two more towns. If I go 2 miles West that opens up county , two other towns, and cheaper houses on the main land. The 20 minutes is a good yard stick. That puts me across the interstate in the county, or further south on the island, way more expensive. They are already at the biggest best school. Lots to juggle around for four years to go. (then there's the reality of todays generation not leaving the nest, my oldest turns 20 this month) |
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Post by bballgirl on Jan 2, 2017 19:05:29 GMT -5
When we divorced we figured the divorce alone was enough change for the kids so we didn't change schools. I do not recommend living too far from your ex. Change of zip code - yes! A lot of times kids forget things or you have to bring them something and time is a commodity. Twenty minutes max is my recommendation for easing the transition for the kids. As far as the schools, check out school grades and see what programs the different high schools have to offer to meet your kids needs. Everything works out! Thank you for that friend! Half my kids are done with H.S., but I still have the other 3 to think about. A little more detail. If I go 2 miles North, I am in a different school district and that opens up two more towns. If I go 2 miles West that opens up county , two other towns, and cheaper houses on the main land. The 20 minutes is a good yard stick. That puts me across the interstate in the county, or further south on the island, way more expensive. They are already at the biggest best school. Lots to juggle around for four years to go. (then there's the reality of todays generation not leaving the nest, my oldest turns 20 this month) At 20 that's understandable if he's going to college but if he's not then my kid would be charged rent or he can live elsewhere. Sometimes we make their lives too comfortable hence the failure to launch. I moved out at 17, went to college and worked 2 jobs. My parents gave me nothing to help financially. Today's kids are weak, they need a lot of toughening up. Over the vacation my kids wanted to play paintball with their friends I told them they can use their own money if they want it. I know having kids is tough though. One step at a time first get your life figured out. |
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Post by DryCreek on Jan 2, 2017 19:49:27 GMT -5
At 20 that's understandable if he's going to college but if he's not then my kid would be charged rent or he can live elsewhere. Sometimes we make their lives too comfortable hence the failure to launch. I moved out at 17, went to college and worked 2 jobs. My parents gave me nothing to help financially. Today's kids are weak, they need a lot of toughening up. Over the vacation my kids wanted to play paintball with their friends I told them they can use their own money if they want it. I know having kids is tough though. One step at a time first get your life figured out. Ditto. +1. Bought my first house solo at 19. Did it making what's now less than minimum wage, and worked my ass off with overtime. We need the modern version of a paper route or lawn mowing. Daily responsibility, crap pay, but enough to make a young teen aspire. Edit: And, yes, it was uphill both ways, in the snow - even during summer! ;-) |
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Post by bballgirl on Jan 2, 2017 20:02:13 GMT -5
At 20 that's understandable if he's going to college but if he's not then my kid would be charged rent or he can live elsewhere. Sometimes we make their lives too comfortable hence the failure to launch. I moved out at 17, went to college and worked 2 jobs. My parents gave me nothing to help financially. Today's kids are weak, they need a lot of toughening up. Over the vacation my kids wanted to play paintball with their friends I told them they can use their own money if they want it. I know having kids is tough though. One step at a time first get your life figured out. Ditto. +1. Bought my first house solo at 19. Did it making what's now less than minimum wage, and worked my ass off with overtime. We need the modern version of a paper route or lawn mowing. Daily responsibility, crap pay, but enough to make a young teen aspire. Edit: And, yes, it was uphill both ways, in the snow - even during summer! ;-) That's impressive at 19. In the Summer! Funny! I was 23 when I bought my first house my ex was 30 and he was afraid. I found a great deal on a starter home and I told him he can buy this house with me today or later for more money. He agreed and we made a nice profit on that house. I was babysitting at ten years old and making money, these kids don't have that drive and ambition. I can say that I try not to give my kids too much so that they will have some drive. A couple of years ago my daughter wanted money for the consession stand at the baseball game (little league). I told her no I don't have money. So in an hour she made rubber band bracelets went door to door in the neighborhood and came home with $10. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 2, 2017 20:11:00 GMT -5
At 20 that's understandable if he's going to college but if he's not then my kid would be charged rent or he can live elsewhere. Sometimes we make their lives too comfortable hence the failure to launch. I moved out at 17, went to college and worked 2 jobs. My parents gave me nothing to help financially. Today's kids are weak, they need a lot of toughening up. Over the vacation my kids wanted to play paintball with their friends I told them they can use their own money if they want it. I know having kids is tough though. One step at a time first get your life figured out. Ditto. +1. Bought my first house solo at 19. Did it making what's now less than minimum wage, and worked my ass off with overtime. We need the modern version of a paper route or lawn mowing. Daily responsibility, crap pay, but enough to make a young teen aspire. Edit: And, yes, it was uphill both ways, in the snow - even during summer! ;-) My crew of teens goes all over the map. The oldest, adopted from China at 14 yrs, old. he's done with H.S. Can he do community college? Yet to be seen. He's come so far and done so well, he's great at pulling his weight around the house, his English and reading skills? Still improving. He went to work at 16 though. Then I have another who's homeschooled, done with H.S. already, taking all his classes at the community college and is 16 yrs old. He's working too. It just happens that the community college is close by, so they may stay with me for a few more years. Lots of factors in this move! |
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Post by DryCreek on Jan 2, 2017 20:11:29 GMT -5
I can say that I try not to give my kids too much so that they will have some drive. A couple of years ago my daughter wanted money for the consession stand at the baseball game (little league). I told her no I don't have money. So in an hour she made rubber band bracelets went door to door in the neighborhood and came home with $10. "Necessity is the mother of invention!" It's remarkable how inspired / focused they can be when it's for something they want. So you know they're capable. My paper route had some freakin' cold mornings. Learned some hard lessons too - like, supplies cost money! |
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Post by bballgirl on Jan 3, 2017 8:51:10 GMT -5
I can say that I try not to give my kids too much so that they will have some drive. A couple of years ago my daughter wanted money for the consession stand at the baseball game (little league). I told her no I don't have money. So in an hour she made rubber band bracelets went door to door in the neighborhood and came home with $10. "Necessity is the mother of invention!" It's remarkable how inspired / focused they can be when it's for something they want. So you know they're capable. My paper route had some freakin' cold mornings. Learned some hard lessons too - like, supplies cost money! That's one of my favorite quotes! Yes they are all capable but it's a matter of not being lazy and a work ethic. |
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Post by wewbwb on Jan 3, 2017 10:57:52 GMT -5
"Necessity is the mother of invention!" It's remarkable how inspired / focused they can be when it's for something they want. So you know they're capable. My paper route had some freakin' cold mornings. Learned some hard lessons too - like, supplies cost money! That's one of my favorite quotes! Yes they are all capable but it's a matter of not being lazy and a work ethic. Two words. Shock. Collar. Just saying. (also provides hours of fun for the adults) |
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Post by bballgirl on Jan 3, 2017 13:41:56 GMT -5
That's one of my favorite quotes! Yes they are all capable but it's a matter of not being lazy and a work ethic. Two words. Shock. Collar. Just saying. (also provides hours of fun for the adults) I've always said education could be so different in this country if the student desks has shock sensors for when they don't pay attention lol |
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