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Post by shamwow on Jan 1, 2017 10:14:47 GMT -5
I've been spending the past few weeks going through my things and discarding what I don't need. Some of this is to simply reduce clutter, but some is to reduce my footprint if this is the year I do leave. It is also helping me get all the legal papers and crap organized.
So far, I've got several trash bags of stuff for Goodwill, and have been using Google Scan to take shots of any physical photos I will want a "copy" of. I've been getting digitized copies of my books (easier to lift a thumb drive or Kindle) than 500 pounds of boxes. Basically, if I haven't touched it in a year, it's gone. Please note...even though my wife has not been touched in several years, she will not be getting stuffed into a garbage bag (it might be different if I thought Goodwill would take her)
Is anyone else going through a similar process, and if so, any thoughts/advice?
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Post by JonDoe on Jan 1, 2017 11:09:44 GMT -5
shamwow My wife loves to purge, it's like sex and candy to her. Me not so much, but I'm definitely not a hoarder either. However, I have been lightening my load much more than usual lately. I had to briefly curtail my efforts for a bit when I found myself making his and hers piles, and using a system of does she need/want/cherish this, do I, or do I want to purge it now to avoid fighting over it in the final stages.
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Post by baza on Jan 1, 2017 20:01:32 GMT -5
An orderly departure would be good.
In my particular situation (back in Oct 09), I had my legal advice etc and was working my way through with a January 10 execution date.
A conversation spun out of control in Oct 09, and an opportunity to go there and then emerged and my departure became a mad rush.
I left in my 14 year old Ford, with my golf clubs, a suitcase, my laptop and my diaries.
I like that you are approaching this in an orderly manner Brother shamwow, but in my experience, it ain't critical.
An orderly departure gets you out.
A mad rush departure gets you out.
Either way, the resolution of the situation happens.
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Post by shamwow on Jan 2, 2017 9:42:52 GMT -5
True but this way I kill 2 birds with one stone.
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Post by csl on Jan 2, 2017 15:46:02 GMT -5
Donate? Thumbs up.
Goodwill? Not so much. Here's an expose about them from a few years, back:
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Post by pfviento on Jan 23, 2017 21:28:50 GMT -5
Pretty much there myself. Purging the clutter and getting my tools and stuff organized and in shape to be moved fairly easily.
I tend to horde too many things at times that can be useful. Working on a few things so repairs to somethings are made.
I am due for a conversation about separating the few Financials we have merged but I need to get the clutter down first.
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Post by shamwow on Jan 23, 2017 22:36:56 GMT -5
Yeah the paper shredder was busy for me over the holidays. Don't think I'll need those 1995 tax returns anytime soon.... Lol
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Post by shamwow on Jan 23, 2017 22:37:12 GMT -5
Yeah the paper shredder was busy for me over the holidays. Don't think I'll need those 1995 tax returns anytime soon.... Lol
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Post by tamara68 on Jan 24, 2017 3:27:58 GMT -5
When I left, I only took my clothes with me. I would like some of the things I have left behind. Photos is most important. Other than that, I don't miss any of the material things really.
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Post by lakeside4003 on Jan 24, 2017 15:41:39 GMT -5
one of the nice things about having already agreed to downsize and sell the house, the de-clutter work is largely already done!
Baz - love that golf clubs were high up on the list!!
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Post by lyn on Jan 24, 2017 16:21:33 GMT -5
We recently moved and downsized in the process. Now, as I walk through my home taking a mental inventory of the "things" I might want to take with me in a few short months I've come to the realization that I'm not taking much. Things I can't replace like the few items saved from the kids' childhoods, some art, guitars, a few antiques, of course photos and that kind of thing will go into storage at first. Pairing down my possessions to the bare minimum is so liberating to me. The less I have, the more freedom I will have to go out and experience life, wherever I may end up. THIS I'm pretty damn excited about😊
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 24, 2017 18:35:17 GMT -5
Oh... I could say too much about this!
It's the waiting! Who's moving out, who's staying, how many years are they staying, what size will the next home be? Hard to start purging with a freeze of all our possessions going on. Starting sooner, may have tipped my hand.
If there's one thing about me verse my W. it's my cleanliness verse hers.
I walk around the house, looking at the piles, trinkets, full shelves, endless desks full of stuff, and say,"that's hers, that's hers, can't touch those, she might want some of that, home school supplies LOTS OF IT, not my decision. Things kids, "might" want some day, or take to college? Clothes that can still be handed down?
Another cog in the wheel to want a divorce. I like the idea of slim picking through the pile, and taking the bare minimum. If she keeps the house,most likely, and not a bad thing, so much of the clutter will be hers to deal with someday.
A few years back my W. and I went through this when my mom passed away. My sister wanted to keep so many things. With 9 of us in our house it was easy to say, "you can have it". Receipts for coal delivered to my parents first home were all neatly organized ,dated, sealed,in individual envelopes, per year, all in a shoe box, way in the back of the desk closet, that and maps!
For me the hardest thing will be dividing what's on the computer. Mostly years of pictures.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 24, 2017 19:24:43 GMT -5
Something else I learned, from my parents passing away. All those hand made christmas ornaments, and cards from my early child hood that my mother cherished, and thought I would want some day, I didn't want them. They had been packed away for so long, forgotten, lived without, taking up space, nice to see again, once, and that was that. I think my kids will feel the same way about their hand made pre -school stuff.
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