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Post by ggold on Dec 30, 2016 21:16:10 GMT -5
The holidays are over and it's time to face reality again. We have not discussed our divorce mediation since maybe Oct. Oh, I'm sorry, he said he didn't want to go to the session we scheduled in Dec. because too much was going on. I agreed to postpone it until January. He cancelled the appointment and said that the mediator was going to email us a new date. I haven't seen any emails from her. So, I will contact her on Monday. I will reschedule the appointment. I will print out the parenting questionnaire and fill it out. I will communicate with him that it's time to move on.
What angers me?? If I don't bring any of this up, it will be swept under the rug. He will continue to avoid it. This is a man who deals with confrontation ALL of the time in his position at work. Yet, this man cannot and was never able to communicate with his wife OR deal with marital issues!!! F this!
I have come to the conclusion that I ALLOWED him to rob me of my sexual identity. I ALLOWED him to rob me of precious years of my life. Now I am 48. I know there is still time for love and intimacy. I'm just SO ANGRY I allowed myself to be taken advantage of. I am trying very hard to let the past go and to be present. I have so much to do before I exit, but that is good because I am determined to exit!! I am going to get out of this loveless marriage and enter into a new world...one of hope and happiness.
Thanks for listening. I blame it on the wine!!
xo
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Post by wewbwb on Dec 30, 2016 21:28:11 GMT -5
The holidays are over and it's time to face reality again. We have not discussed our divorce mediation since maybe Oct. Oh, I'm sorry, he said he didn't want to go to the session we scheduled in Dec. because too much was going on. I agreed to postpone it until January. He cancelled the appointment and said that the mediator was going to email us a new date. I haven't seen any emails from her. So, I will contact her on Monday. I will reschedule the appointment. I will print out the parenting questionnaire and fill it out. I will communicate with him that it's time to move on. What angers me?? If I don't bring any of this up, it will be swept under the rug. He will continue to avoid it. This is a man who is a VP in a major financial company. He deals with confrontation ALL of the time! Yet, this man cannot and was never able to communicate with his wife OR deal with marital issues!!! F this! I have come to the conclusion that I ALLOWED him to rob me of my sexual identity. I ALLOWED him to rob me of precious years of my life. Now I am 48. I know there is still time for love and intimacy. I'm just SO ANGRY I allowed myself to be taken advantage of. I am trying very hard to let the past go and to be present. I have so much to do before I exit, but that is good because I am determined to exit!! I am going to get out of this loveless marriage and enter into a new world...one of hope and happiness. Thanks for listening. I blame it on the wine!! xo I blame it on your husband, but whatever. |
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Post by shamwow on Dec 30, 2016 21:30:52 GMT -5
Don't blame it on the wine. Blame it on your husband.
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Post by ggold on Dec 30, 2016 21:38:20 GMT -5
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Post by skguy on Dec 30, 2016 22:59:11 GMT -5
Yes my good friend, blame it on him. I know you work hard to try and fix things that need fixing. Always there for you. |
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Post by ggold on Dec 30, 2016 23:11:36 GMT -5
Yes my good friend, blame it on him. I know you work hard to try and fix things that need fixing. Always there for you. Xoxoxox |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2016 23:46:47 GMT -5
Girl, you and me both. Hang in there with your eye firmly on the finish line. We WILL get out. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Take it one day at a time. Before you know it, we'll be cracking the champagne together!!
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Post by skguy on Dec 30, 2016 23:48:17 GMT -5
Girl, you and me both. Hang in there with your eye firmly on the finish line. We WILL get out. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Take it one day at a time. Before you know it, we'll be cracking the champagne together!! I can't wait to hear the day you both can celebrate together. That will make my day. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2016 0:01:27 GMT -5
Amen to that! There will be some serious celebration! We might have to plan an ILIASM reunion for that one.
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Post by baza on Dec 31, 2016 2:55:29 GMT -5
Observation - Re Workplace Confrontational Skills.
I spent many years in corporate finance, and stalling, when it serves your objective, is as valuable a skill as many others.
"Gung ho get it done" has its' place too, but is not always what a situation calls for.
Stalling is part of ones negotiating tool box.
Chances are, he is quite good at it in the workplace too when it's called for.
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Post by shamwow on Dec 31, 2016 9:12:01 GMT -5
Observation - Re Workplace Confrontational Skills. I spent many years in corporate finance, and stalling, when it serves your objective, is as valuable a skill as many others. "Gung ho get it done" has its' place too, but is not always what a situation calls for. Stalling is part of ones negotiating tool box. Chances are, he is quite good at it in the workplace too when it's called for. Ah, the old pregnant pause... |
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