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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2016 11:58:11 GMT -5
What baza and DryCreek said. Your daughter loves her mother, and probably always will - even though your STBX behaves badly. We humans tend to still love our parents, even when they are outright abusive. It takes something extreme to break that bond. So, assuming you want to keep your daughter in your life, you will always have to deal with your STBX in some way. Acknowledge this - but don't give up on getting your own life back. You do not need to be married to or living with her mother, in order to be a good parent to your daughter. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2017 10:19:30 GMT -5
Well, my daughter is much better now. She is more like herself, happy and sweet. My guess is that her mom just hit her with a barrage of complaints as soon as she got there, and my daughter didn't know how to handle it. W can be relentless and will not stop mouthing until a person agrees with her. I am feeling much better now.
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Post by rejected101 on Jan 5, 2017 10:33:09 GMT -5
flashjohn this sounds really hard on you. I have no sound advice to offer... never faced that situ. But I would advise you to be soooo careful with your daughter. Your wife brought her up too remember and that will have affected her too. But she is young and doesn't have the life experience yet to fully understand what's been happening. You will more than likely wind up being the bad guy if you attempt To get her to understand. I'm sorry this is no help at all. But I do care. X It's easy for us to say as we are not you and do not feel your emotions but from what I have read, going back will lead to you being stuck back in the same old unhappy place as before. She will make an effort for a period but slowly she will slip back to her old ways because she does not acknowledge that she is the problem. People can only change when they acknowledge they are the problem in my opinion and that isn't the case here. You've done the hard work. You are gone, stay gone!! |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2017 10:34:12 GMT -5
flashjohn this sounds really hard on you. I have no sound advice to offer... never faced that situ. But I would advise you to be soooo careful with your daughter. Your wife brought her up too remember and that will have affected her too. But she is young and doesn't have the life experience yet to fully understand what's been happening. You will more than likely wind up being the bad guy if you attempt To get her to understand. I'm sorry this is no help at all. But I do care. X It's easy for us to say as we are not you and do not feel your emotions but from what I have read, going back will lead to you being stuck back in the same old unhappy place as before. She will make an effort for a period but slowly she will slip back to her old ways because she does not acknowledge that she is the problem. People can only change when they acknowledge they are the problem in my opinion and that isn't the case here. You've done the hard work. You are gone, stay gone!! I have come to the same conclusion. I thank you very much. |
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