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Nothing says "I can't stand you" for the holiday like..... Dec 27, 2016 8:55:41 GMT -5 thefullmoon and lyn like this

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Post by csl on Dec 27, 2016 8:55:41 GMT -5

Dec 26, 2016 13:08:02 GMT -5 thefullmoon said:

Dec 26, 2016 11:13:40 GMT -5 ggold said:

Omg. Yes Bravo!!! I have to give a lot of you credit for even still sleeping in the same bed with your refusers. My H and I haven't slept together in the same bed for years! His bed Is the couch. I have the king bed all to myself. Sad thing is, my children think this is normal. They have never really seen us sleeping together. I tell them it's because daddy snores. Some role models we are, huh?

What the credits for? I found it is so masochistic ...clinging to the person who pushes you away all the time..

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Nothing says "I can't stand you" for the holiday like..... Dec 27, 2016 8:57:49 GMT -5 thefullmoon, GeekGoddess, and 3 more like this

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Dec 26, 2016 18:00:45 GMT -5 brian said:

When we visit relatives, my wife sleeps with our youngest (11). He still likes "cuddle time" every now and then.

Anyone else think that's just not right?

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Nothing says "I can't stand you" for the holiday like..... Dec 28, 2016 5:17:02 GMT -5

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Post by brian on Dec 28, 2016 5:17:02 GMT -5

Dec 27, 2016 8:57:49 GMT -5 csl said:

Dec 26, 2016 18:00:45 GMT -5 brian said:

When we visit relatives, my wife sleeps with our youngest (11). He still likes "cuddle time" every now and then.

Anyone else think that's just not right?

I do! But I've been overridden for so long that I just don't bother anymore. At least it's an improvement from where it used to be. He would sleep in "our" bed most every weekend until he was 10. I slept elsewhere every weekend as I refused to share the bed with my wife, my son, and my dog. When I used to try, I would always get woken up in the middle of the night being pushed to the edge, so I chose for a good night's rest on the couch instead.

shamwow Senior Members Forum Benefactor Posts: 3,597 Age Range: 46-50	Nothing says "I can't stand you" for the holiday like..... Dec 28, 2016 7:51:16 GMT -5 via mobile GeekGoddess, DryCreek, and 3 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by shamwow on Dec 28, 2016 7:51:16 GMT -5 Yeah when they have entered their second decade of life they should be able to handle sleeping in their own bed IMHO
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Nothing says "I can't stand you" for the holiday like..... Dec 28, 2016 19:23:20 GMT -5 via mobile

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Dec 27, 2016 8:57:49 GMT -5 csl said:

Dec 26, 2016 18:00:45 GMT -5 brian said:

When we visit relatives, my wife sleeps with our youngest (11). He still likes "cuddle time" every now and then.

Anyone else think that's just not right?

I have a 12yo nephew that can't sleep alone when they go on trips. They visited last year at Christmas time and his dad slept in one of the bunk beds in the kids room so his mom could sleep in the room with him. It struck me as very odd.

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Nothing says "I can't stand you" for the holiday like..... Dec 31, 2016 17:56:23 GMT -5 via mobile novembercomingfire likes this

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Post by shamwow on Dec 31, 2016 17:56:23 GMT -5

Dec 31, 2016 16:39:08 GMT -5 novembercomingfire said:

Generally, i am the one doing the gymnastics. By tradition, she simply kicks me enough times to move me the requisite distance ...

Is it because there isn't enough room or she doesn't want you near? If the latter and if it were me I'd kick back.

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Nothing says "I can't stand you" for the holiday like..... Dec 31, 2016 18:06:10 GMT -5 greatcoastal likes this

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Post by Pinkberry on Dec 31, 2016 18:06:10 GMT -5

My ex, the refuser, used to buy me gifts for Christmas from his own Christmas list and INSIST that I'd asked for them. It was like a cartoon about the dangers of gaslighting to your mental health. It was so absurd that only a comic book could adequately contain the insanity.

All that stuff ended up in a drawer and he would act hurt that I never used any of it until he finally pulled it out and said that he'd take it if I wasn't going to bother using it. Good grief!

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