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Post by petrushka on Dec 19, 2016 17:25:48 GMT -5
Oh! I know this one! Narcissistic! "Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of ultraconfidence lies a fragile self-esteem that's vulnerable to the slightest criticism." My husband is narcissistic too. It really messes with your head. That was my very first thought too, when I read the original post here by JonDoe . However, as for the definition: NPD can come in two variants. The one variant, the one most assumed is that the narcissistic person has an overbearingly strong, and unassailable confidence and sense of self worth and entitlement. The other variant, the one you mention here, is much less prevalent in public perception. In either case, narcissism is a severe distortion of the perception of self worth, as I've seen it described, with the symptoms described being similar ... for instance the admiration and being the centre of attention thing is a need in one case, an entitlement in the other ... |
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Post by Lithium92 on Dec 19, 2016 17:45:12 GMT -5
Borderline Personality Disorder is closely related, but based round fear of abandonment and more raging. They're Cluster B disorders, and effectively untreatable.
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Post by greatcoastal on Dec 19, 2016 17:49:21 GMT -5
Just to chime in with the chorus here! I met with my therapist this morning, I mentioned seeing my in-laws for what may be the last time. He said,"you are loosing a family you know?".I stated that I realize that. That made me speculate how I would be treated. How many of the men there would silently nod in agreement to what I am doing. Ending 24 yrs of being under control by a narc.
My therapist then asked, "do you see yourself on the same level as your FIL? The answer was ,"oh yea! the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Also how my spouse told me early in our marriage, if I act like her (her mother) call me out on it. Well, now she says, don't call me that!."
We went on to discuss how FIL is a living example (10 yrs now in our house) of how a Narc/manipulative controller, ruins the marriage. They will never admit to the weakness, or that the problem is in any way, there's. The fact that she can not connect the dots, see herself acting the same way, is very telling. Her sister too!
Yet my STBX was very vocal in telling her dad how innocent he was, and how mom will never admit to being wrong about anything. The relatives favorite line to grandpa was "what took you so long?"
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