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Post by Chatter Fox on Nov 23, 2016 21:21:13 GMT -5
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Post by baza on Nov 23, 2016 22:21:27 GMT -5
I think that a mindset of "giving up" is not necessarily always such a bad thing.
Personally, I had "given up" on having a decent marriage, and was ok with that, sort of, kind of.
It was actually a great relief to have got to that mindset actually as I stopped hoping it would get any better, and that relieved a great deal of pressure, for quite a long time.
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For me, it provided a much needed break from the "why chasing" and anticident bullshit that usually went on.
Although I didn't realise it at the time, at some level I was gathering my resources ready for another crack at resolving my ILIASM shithole.
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This "giving up" stage lasted probably 5 years I'd say, in retrospect, and I needed that break, bad. ILIASM deals do your head in, get you thinking weird shit, get you making uninformed choices that feed back in to the loop. Busting out of that thinking is no easy matter, and I needed that hiatus to start sorting my shit out. And as a sidebar to that process, my marriage got resolved. In my case, by it ending.
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Liked the article Brother beeman, and it's underlying message "don't give up".
Personally, I'd suggest a slight revision to "don't give up permanently" as sometimes, giving up for a while has it's value
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