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Post by thebaffledking on Nov 21, 2016 2:56:57 GMT -5
After that subject line, I don't even know what else to say. I love the support here.
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Post by baza on Nov 21, 2016 5:16:33 GMT -5
Got your legal advice Brother thebaffledking ?
Got your exit strategy in do-able shape ?
Got your support network shored up ?
Got the best advice you can get to help any minor children transition through such an event ?
Yes ?
OK, all that remains is your resolve to start the process and see it through to resolution.
This will be one of the fiercest tests of your resolve imaginable.
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Plenty of people in this group have done it, it IS do-able.
There's no reason why you should not succeed in your aim to get out.
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Post by callisto on Nov 21, 2016 15:15:36 GMT -5
Baz, I think resolve is the biggest of all the necessities on your list needed to leave... It is the hardest of all things to muster...
I realise this now as I still teeter on the cliff edge...
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Post by csl on Dec 9, 2016 21:27:46 GMT -5
After that subject line, I don't even know what else to say. I love the support here. Just read your Textbook Abuse post, and so have to ask: you want out, so have you pulled the trigger? |
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Post by thebaffledking on Dec 9, 2016 21:32:26 GMT -5
Nope, not yet
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Post by GeekGoddess on Dec 10, 2016 10:40:40 GMT -5
Are you exit planning? The best relief of agony - before making the announcement- was actively taking small steps toward it. Browse lawyer ads. See who offers free consult. Map directions to their locations. Empty browser history. Make a list of all accounts (assets & debts). Make notes of your preference (for instance- I had retirement & so did my Ex. My preference was not to add them together & divide by 2. My preference was: what's his should stay his & what's mine should stay mine. I lost some $ this way. I didn't care b/c it was quicker my way. Your preference may be different) Scope out neighborhoods & take note of rentals. Work out. Eat well. Find yourself as much as you can. See the lawyer. Go through some holidays not faking happiness, maybe. Whatever you can do to "practice" being you will serve you well. Good luck! |
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Post by thebaffledking on Dec 10, 2016 17:08:05 GMT -5
GG, I have been practicing for 3 years now, with a couple rather spectatcular launch failures in there..........but I learned from each one, I learned more about myself, I came back here for support........I have an amazing life waiting for me on the other side of a simple announcement........simple, that is, once stripped of all the emotional kudzu that grew unabated over my soul for years and years and years because of her treatment of me....... sounds like cagedtiger and I are both trying to bum-rush our exits in January......hopefully we will have a couple of success stories to celebrate in the new year
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2016 12:58:21 GMT -5
Me too, OP. Really, really want out.
And I agree, I think resolve is the most important but also the hardest piece. Mine is wicked strong right now. But I've got about 18 months until I can execute. I just need to keep my resolve.
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