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Post by JMX on Apr 17, 2016 10:27:59 GMT -5
That craving for physical affection - let alone intimacy - sucks. I used to go for a full body massage when it got really bad and sometimes a foot massage or head massage helps. I don't know if you know the sitcom Frasier (one of my favourites). The two male leads (brothers) both go through dry patches and in one episode Niles talked about how you can tell the level of sexual frustration someone is experiencing by how often they head to get their nails done. “Manicurists, pedicurists, facialists. When you see a man who’s well-groomed, you can bet he’s not getting any.” Ha! I like Frasier but didn't remember that bit - I suppose because it was not an issue when I used to watch it  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2016 16:03:49 GMT -5
Totally agree with bballgirl. Why would you think this has anything to do with you? Picture him with somebody else and see if you can seriously imagine the relationship being very different. THIS. I was crazy about somebody who gave me very little back. But what makes me feel a little better is knowing that things would not go any better for any other woman he might get involved with. I wasn't the magic woman who could make him be happy, well-adjusted, normal, etc. - and/or get him out of his bad situation and into a better life. But neither is any other woman. There's a point at which HE needs to accept the help that's offered, and DO something with it. If he won't - that is HIS problem. I tried. And finally decided to move on with my life. Hopefully, some other man will fully appreciate me. |
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Post by mariposa43 on Apr 17, 2016 16:41:44 GMT -5
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Post by JMX on Apr 17, 2016 17:32:08 GMT -5
;-) Ha! Love this I may take you up on that! |
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Post by JMX on Apr 17, 2016 17:34:59 GMT -5
Totally agree with bballgirl. Why would you think this has anything to do with you? Picture him with somebody else and see if you can seriously imagine the relationship being very different. THIS. I was crazy about somebody who gave me very little back. But what makes me feel a little better is knowing that things would not go any better for any other woman he might get involved with. I wasn't the magic woman who could make him be happy, well-adjusted, normal, etc. - and/or get him out of his bad situation and into a better life. But neither is any other woman. There's a point at which HE needs to accept the help that's offered, and DO something with it. If he won't - that is HIS problem. I tried. And finally decided to move on with my life. Hopefully, some other man will fully appreciate me. Argh - I was being super dramatic last night. I hate being lonely and having to still live under the same roof with him. We are two months in since working on getting out and it gets harder. I want and need affection, or at least, him away so I can focus on other things. Thank you and I understand. Just had a bad night and fell off of a couple of wagons and rolled into a ditch! |
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Post by Dan on Apr 17, 2016 18:13:05 GMT -5
Hoping by at this point on Sunday evening your Saturday night hangover has subsided!
{{hugs}}, my friend...
PS: don't ask "why". At least at this point, it is probably not helpful, if there even is an answer at all. Instead ask "how"... how you are going to find someone who loves you the way you deserve and want to be loved. You need to start putting your energy into that, I think.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2016 18:13:55 GMT -5
That craving for physical affection - let alone intimacy - sucks. I used to go for a full body massage when it got really bad and sometimes a foot massage or head massage helps. I don't know if you know the sitcom Frasier (one of my favourites). The two male leads (brothers) both go through dry patches and in one episode Niles talked about how you can tell the level of sexual frustration someone is experiencing by how often they head to get their nails done. “Manicurists, pedicurists, facialists. When you see a man who’s well-groomed, you can bet he’s not getting any.” Well if well-manicured hands and feet are the sign, I've apparently been a walking billboard advertising my sexless marriage. |
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Post by JMX on Apr 17, 2016 19:26:28 GMT -5
.”[/quote] Well if well-manicured hands and feet are the sign, I've apparently been a walking billboard advertising my sexless marriage. [/quote] *** Helen, my cuticles are a mess. They are bleeding and mangled. I have to try and work around hand shakes to keep people from feeling the rough spots! I know, gross. My toes look cute though |
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Post by JMX on Apr 17, 2016 19:28:56 GMT -5
Hoping by at this point on Sunday evening your Saturday night hangover has subsided! {{hugs}}, my friend... PS: don't ask "why". At least at this point, it is probably not helpful, if there even is an answer at all. Instead ask "how"... how you are going to find someone who loves you the way you deserve and want to be loved. You need to start putting your energy into that, I think. Feeling better! I had some food that was bad for my diet but it did the trick! How? Well, I simply am stuck here for the foreseeable future which really sucks. So I am concentrating on work and making as much as I can to make the foreseeable future shorter. Thanks, friend! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2016 20:13:11 GMT -5
THIS. I was crazy about somebody who gave me very little back. But what makes me feel a little better is knowing that things would not go any better for any other woman he might get involved with. I wasn't the magic woman who could make him be happy, well-adjusted, normal, etc. - and/or get him out of his bad situation and into a better life. But neither is any other woman. There's a point at which HE needs to accept the help that's offered, and DO something with it. If he won't - that is HIS problem. I tried. And finally decided to move on with my life. Hopefully, some other man will fully appreciate me. Argh - I was being super dramatic last night. I hate being lonely and having to still live under the same roof with him. We are two months in since working on getting out and it gets harder. I want and need affection, or at least, him away so I can focus on other things. Thank you and I understand. Just had a bad night and fell off of a couple of wagons and rolled into a ditch! That part where we still lived together but we're going through the divorce was torture. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2016 11:32:03 GMT -5
I was also very horny and lonely last night. Now sober with a headache, still horny and need a hug. Hugs (If there was a vibrator emoticon I would send you one of those too, but I can't find one on the list) Lol A vibrator emoticon...that's a good idea. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2016 11:36:44 GMT -5
I wish I was past it, but I am not. Why doesn't he love me? I am totes lovable! Who can say? It's a futile question we all have asked ourselves, and there is no answer. I don't even know why I love one man and not another. Love is a mystery, however, one thing is for sure, in a SM when the refuser does not care about your suffering, it's not love. {{hugs}} |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2016 14:15:48 GMT -5
I wish I was past it, but I am not. Why doesn't he love me? I am totes lovable! I am very sorry, and I do understand the feeling. Sometimes, when I wake up in the morning, I still think that if I just tried a little bit harder, maybe she would respond. While I am drowsy, I can still feel that way. But when I start to wake up, and remember all the shit she put me through, I stop myself from feeling that way. I start remembering that past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. And how likely is it that she would change after 28 years of treating me like shit? Answer: Not very! All I can tell you is that after 7 weeks of being away from her, I feel like this less often. PLUS, I feel better every day, and my brother and sister say I am acting more like myself for the first time in a LONG time. And you are lovable, in addition to having boobs that men like to check out! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2016 17:46:40 GMT -5
Lord. I had too many vodka sodas last night and the diet did not help me process the alcohol very well. Vodka, dieting, and horny. That's too much for anyone to bear.  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2016 17:58:52 GMT -5
I was also very horny and lonely last night. Now sober with a headache, still horny and need a hug. Hungover and Horny? That's a tough combination. |
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