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Post by Caris on Oct 25, 2016 10:02:28 GMT -5
One needs to be strong
to bear the pain of longing;
rushing towards Union is not the answer.
It is in the state of separation that
all one's strength is needed.
~ Rumi
Please interpret as it speaks to you. Rumi has been one of my comforters for the past 5-years. What comforts you? Where do you find comfort when you need to be soothed?
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Post by wewbwb on Oct 25, 2016 10:25:32 GMT -5
In my case, it would depend on what I feel is wrong.
Sometimes it may be simply a friend to hear me.
Other times it may be recognition for a job well done.
Other times it may be the arms of a loving woman
Sometimes it's being left alone to figure out what I need.
Often it's cupcakes. (I'm actually not making a joke)
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Post by Caris on Oct 25, 2016 10:36:07 GMT -5
In my case, it would depend on what I feel is wrong. Sometimes it may be simply a friend to hear me. Other times it may be recognition for a job well done. Other times it may be the arms of a loving woman Sometimes it's being left alone to figure out what I need. Often it's cupcakes. (I'm actually not making a joke) I know you are not making a joke. Food is a great comforter to many, myself included. Someone to listen and understand brings such relief. Recognition is also important. Physical touch and to be held lovingly...well I can only imagine the relief of tension and remember how it felt when I was young. Yes, wewbwb, all these things. I relate. Btw, the only cupcakes I like are the pumpkin spice ones at B&N. I usually treat myself in the fall, once or twice.  |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Oct 25, 2016 11:44:56 GMT -5
My comfort is to throw myself into a physically challenging project. My mind is occcupied with the planning and design while at the same time I'm building. (I know this doesn't make sense to you engineers). I'm creative and kinetic. My husband has learned to trust me even though his engineers brain is freaking out. He also knows that it is how I deal with my unhappiness.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2016 12:39:09 GMT -5
Compelling fiction can do it for me.
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Post by bballgirl on Oct 25, 2016 13:58:11 GMT -5
Music, my children, friends, phone calls or texting with friends and family,
Sleeping, walking, fwb, and cupcakes.
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Post by JMX on Oct 26, 2016 9:55:28 GMT -5
I wish I knew what did it for me. My anxieties are showing up in much different ways than most. I don't have panic attacks or anything, but I bite my nails, chew my cuticles, reach for food or the wine. I tried to take up knitting - but, who am I kidding? It's just not my jam.
My therapist suggested yoga, so that's a next "try" - I also want to get back in the gym and exercise to clear my mind.
If I could remove my financial strain, I think I could remove a lot of my anxiety and sort the rest out, but - there it is and there it lies. I can only plug away at it and hope it gets better.
Super frustrated.
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Post by baza on Oct 26, 2016 18:04:36 GMT -5
"Two Wheel Stress Meditation Therapy" is something I find highly useful as a de-stressor.
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A blast up the river valley, through the twisties, over the wood bridge, back through the wheat fields, over the weir, through town and home.
There's an hours worth of full concentration, there's no room for thinking about anything other than the business at hand, getting the right gear, revs, lines, lean angle, braking points, errant kangaroos, potholes, farmer Joes wandering herefords etc.
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Often, after such a ride, clarity about the stressing issue comes, even though I have not been consciously thinking about it.
Actually, possibly BECAUSE I haven't been thinking consciously about it.
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Oct 27, 2016 16:08:47 GMT -5
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Post by Caris on Oct 27, 2016 16:08:47 GMT -5
"Two Wheel Stress Meditation Therapy" is something I find highly useful as a de-stressor. - A blast up the river valley, through the twisties, over the wood bridge, back through the wheat fields, over the weir, through town and home. There's an hours worth of full concentration, there's no room for thinking about anything other than the business at hand, getting the right gear, revs, lines, lean angle, braking points, errant kangaroos, potholes, farmer Joes wandering herefords etc. - Often, after such a ride, clarity about the stressing issue comes, even though I have not been consciously thinking about it. Actually, possibly BECAUSE I haven't been thinking consciously about it. That is really being in the present moment, and an exhilarating "moment" it is too. |
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Oct 27, 2016 16:12:33 GMT -5
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Post by Caris on Oct 27, 2016 16:12:33 GMT -5
I wish I knew what did it for me. My anxieties are showing up in much different ways than most. I don't have panic attacks or anything, but I bite my nails, chew my cuticles, reach for food or the wine. I tried to take up knitting - but, who am I kidding? It's just not my jam. My therapist suggested yoga, so that's a next "try" - I also want to get back in the gym and exercise to clear my mind. If I could remove my financial strain, I think I could remove a lot of my anxiety and sort the rest out, but - there it is and there it lies. I can only plug away at it and hope it gets better. Super frustrated. JMX, I think it's hard to let go of financial stress, and let your mind be in the moment with other things. I do hope you get some relief. I'm so sorry, dear. I thought you were almost ready to leave a few months back. My heart breaks for you. I remember the misery years very well. {{hugs}} and love. |
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Post by Caris on Oct 27, 2016 16:22:05 GMT -5
@smartkat, a good book does it for me too, or a great series on tv. bballgirl, that's a great list, and plenty on it. rhapsodee, engaging the mind in challenging work is another great way to keep the mind busy and distract. The only challenge I have these days is dealing with the Market Place, and that's the opposite of uplifting or comforting. |
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