Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2016 19:11:17 GMT -5
Oct 6, 2016 14:24:18 GMT -5 @roch649 said:
Just don't be a nice guy... that's what I am....it's all I am....and people (M&W) will always take advantage of that ...I need to be more of an asshole....even around here....heck ....a lot of u already think that....gonna keep working at that....
Sometimes, I feel like your comments or your stories are lacking in the wanting of a person for who they are, or a connection. I get that you need to be attracted to them, I really do get that, but I never hear any longing for the emotional connection in your "voice".
I think you have the idea of a "nice guy" all wrong as baza and cagedtiger have articulated far better than I have.
Do you have any emotional connections with people? Connections that reach beyond what someone can do for you, your situation or your finances? Can you work on that part and see what happens?
I just never feel any "warmth" from your words.
Well that post was written in frustration...avoid over reading it....
Do I have emotional connections?...yes...and those are the best....I admit they are harder to come by for me..but I love it when they do....my challenge is I don't read people well...I do try for something deeper with most but I often struggle...I just get lost for words... I feel like I get written off to fast cause I can't make the best start...
And this is just for friends...relationships are harder...
But I was reminded of what's its like when there is a connection.... I was at a club, by myself just to go out and get a drink. I saw a beautiful girl across the room. Just i was looking at her, she saw me. We ended up chatting and it felt so natural, so easy... her smile was super cute...and the blue hair...lol...and she seemed super at ease with me.... I forgot was this kind of connection was like...I miss it..to see that sparkle in her eyes as she talked to me....too bad when she had to leave... but rather than heartbroken...I will remember her with a smile.....
Yes... I do like real emotional connection.
