10 Toxic People Quiz

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10 Toxic People Quiz Oct 6, 2016 0:51:56 GMT -5 GeekGoddess, pinkskies, and 1 more like this

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Post by timeforliving2 on Oct 6, 2016 0:51:56 GMT -5

I saw this article and thought it might be helpful. The main concept is that it's important to identify the main *types* of toxic people, then respond by establishing boundaries and choosing when to engage them. I am sure this article was not written with spouses / partners in mind. Still, there are perhaps some people reading in this forum where perhaps they haven't gotten married and/or aren't seriously involved yet and/or haven't had kids yet. Read this and save yourself! And if you are married, this article might be even more reason why you need to get out.

www3.forbes.com/leadership/10-toxic-people-you-should-avoid-at-all-costs/

Take this opportunity for a survey as well: How many of these "types" describe your refuser (or ex-refuser / ex-spouse)? 5 out of 10? 10 out of 10?

Finally, take to heart the first page of this article... Toxic people have a measurable negative effect on us... on our brains / central command! Warning Will Robinson... Retreat! Cut bait! Move on!

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Last Edit: Oct 6, 2016 0:52:28 GMT -5 by timeforliving2

I adopted this TWIST on the traditional Serenity Prayer:
"I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change. I am changing the things I cannot accept."
Life goes on. Time marches on. No more status quo. It's time for living.

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10 Toxic People Quiz Oct 6, 2016 1:36:44 GMT -5 via mobile warmways, GeekGoddess, and 1 more like this

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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 1:36:44 GMT -5

Interesting that this was written with a workplace context in mind, as I have been noticing parallels between my being mired in a job I don't like, and the struggles of so many to leave a sexless marriage.

Most refusers it seems are manipulators. The Dementors are Anton LaVey's psychic vampires. Lots of refusers are those too. And oh the arrogance to say, "Not with me, and not with anyone else either!" How true that arrogant people are often underperformers LOL.

Only one way to deal with these people: Knock that exit plan into shape.

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10 Toxic People Quiz Oct 6, 2016 2:07:48 GMT -5 GeekGoddess likes this

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Post by baza on Oct 6, 2016 2:07:48 GMT -5

It is always interesting to see how, in people, they may present as one thing, but in time reveal themselves as actually something else.
Take a few of the examples in the article.
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Someone may present initially a persona of self assuredness. Further exposure reveals them to be "Arrogant".
The person initially presenting as having high moral values reveals themself eventually as "Judgemental"
A person appearing to have a depth of self knowledge actually turns out to be "Self Absorbed"
Someone who presents as being very well informed is in fact a "Gossip"
A person exhibiting forward planning skills turns out to be a "Manipulator"
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Enjoyed the article Brother T4L2

mirrororchid: We've compared denier/refuser spouses to prison wardens. Dr. Psychmom has compared them to hostage takers and the unhappy spouse has Stockholm syndrome. Prisoners can't leave. Stockholm hostages don't because they want a good outcome for the captor. Sept 10, 2024 18:54:11 GMT -5

mirrororchid: Heard on a podcast: "Dating is where we present our best selves. Vulnerability is the opposite. Where we risk our partner knowing things that are imperfect. This is the way to forge the life partner bond." Sept 10, 2024 19:17:03 GMT -5

week5of35years: My Wife had 30 free mins before she had to start work this AM... I said.. "lets have a quick shag" and she said she was going to walk the dog instead.... Still work to do.... Sept 17, 2024 3:51:34 GMT -5

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Post by baza on Oct 6, 2016 2:07:48 GMT -5

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