Life is all about personal growth. PERSONAL growth. - Sometimes, our environment is conducive to our personal growth. Say in a functional family, within a supportive network, within a functional marriage / adult relationship. The environment being an enhancement to our personal growth. - And sometimes, our environment is not conducive to our personal growth. Say in a dysfunctional family, within a unsupportive network, within a dysfunctional marriage / adult relationship. The environment being a huge impediment to our personal growth. - And sometimes, we are alone, or in a neutral environment, perhaps seeking personal development / enlightenment / call it what you will as a stand alone individual. - So the article makes sense, to me at least. Leaving for yourself is a perfectly valid choice. - But having said that, I think the motive for someone to leave is usually more a fear of pissing the rest of their life up against the wall than it is this rather altruistic view of leaving for oneself.
But having said that, I think the motive for someone to leave is usually more a fear of pissing the rest of their life up against the wall than it is this rather altruistic view of leaving for oneself.
Sometimes. But I think that "fear of pissing the rest of their life," and "leaving for oneself," can be one in the same. I would say that's my stance.
"The capacity that people have to love... Where does it go?" -- Truly, Madly, Deeply
Post by GeekGoddess on Oct 9, 2016 17:32:26 GMT -5
I love the article. For me, the ability to be me was what I hoped for when leaving. I nearly sank the ship very quickly when I first left. Glad as hell I knew where to get help to get sober, which has now given me a whole new life. I'm single & think that's still a smart move right now. I want to get over a bit more of my tendency to look outside myself for my happiness. I'm practicing generating my own happiness in absence of a mate -AND it's working. When I get good enough at it, then I hope to find a partner who also understands this level of self-caring so that neither of us sacrifices self to the other. We can both be supportive of the others individuality & independence. This is my hope for the future.
mirrororchid: Thanks, Isthisit. Celebrating the day we broke from the UK and chose to govern ourselves! Looking like a less good idea the last 50 years, but a little late. The Brits might say, "No backsies."
Jul 7, 2021 18:03:59 GMT -5
Handy: Petrushka, How is your knee replacement recovery going?
Jul 15, 2021 0:22:34 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hope you are OK Tamara 68.....
Jul 16, 2021 11:11:59 GMT -5
petrushka: Handy it is going. Still painful. First session with the physio yesterday and he was enthusiastic about my range of movement, and says many people never even get that far after the full 6 weeks physio. OK, I'll take it ;-) but it still hurts. A lot.
Jul 16, 2021 15:58:37 GMT -5
petrushka: I was concerned about some things, like how far I can [not] lift my leg, straightened, but he allayed my worries on that account. Seems I'm not at all behind the curve.
Jul 16, 2021 16:02:27 GMT -5
Handy: Petrushka, I am happy to hear your range of motion is still decent. My W had knee surgery so I was aware of at least most of her rehabilitation difficulties. Yes, it still hurts big time for you but seeing my W's recovery, it takes time and exercising.
Jul 16, 2021 17:05:15 GMT -5
njsojourner: I hope everyone is well! Thought I would share that I am still having a blast outsourcing. I now have a regular fuck buddy and she is great. Same situation as me but a few years younger. In fact, her sex drive is crazier than mine and stranger.
Jul 16, 2021 21:50:15 GMT -5
njsojourner: Hi all. I thought I’d just share I am still having a blast — I now have a regular fuck buddy. She is younger by 6 years and full of energy and into fetishes-she likes to “force” me to have sex in public places —I love it.
Jul 16, 2021 21:54:49 GMT -5
tamara68: worksforme2: I am ok, thank you. The floods in Belgium are about 50 or 60 miles from where I live. The worst floods in decades.
Jul 17, 2021 8:54:44 GMT -5
Handy: I looked up several pages about the European floods and I saw pictures of what were possibly small streams before the floods but with all of the rain, became fast moving rivers that overflow the river banks and took everything for a wild ride.
Jul 19, 2021 15:13:23 GMT -5
petrushka: Oh man, if a river excavates 20-30 feet DOWN you have a bit of a weather event on your hands all right!
Jul 19, 2021 21:39:01 GMT -5