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Post by misssunnybunny on Oct 4, 2016 18:06:14 GMT -5
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Post by baza on Oct 4, 2016 21:01:50 GMT -5
Life is all about personal growth.
PERSONAL growth.
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Sometimes, our environment is conducive to our personal growth. Say in a functional family, within a supportive network, within a functional marriage / adult relationship.
The environment being an enhancement to our personal growth.
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And sometimes, our environment is not conducive to our personal growth. Say in a dysfunctional family, within a unsupportive network, within a dysfunctional marriage / adult relationship.
The environment being a huge impediment to our personal growth.
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And sometimes, we are alone, or in a neutral environment, perhaps seeking personal development / enlightenment / call it what you will as a stand alone individual.
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So the article makes sense, to me at least.
Leaving for yourself is a perfectly valid choice.
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But having said that, I think the motive for someone to leave is usually more a fear of pissing the rest of their life up against the wall than it is this rather altruistic view of leaving for oneself.
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Post by TMD on Oct 9, 2016 14:43:51 GMT -5
But having said that, I think the motive for someone to leave is usually more a fear of pissing the rest of their life up against the wall than it is this rather altruistic view of leaving for oneself. Sometimes. But I think that "fear of pissing the rest of their life," and "leaving for oneself," can be one in the same. I would say that's my stance. |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Oct 9, 2016 17:32:26 GMT -5
I love the article. For me, the ability to be me was what I hoped for when leaving. I nearly sank the ship very quickly when I first left. Glad as hell I knew where to get help to get sober, which has now given me a whole new life.
I'm single & think that's still a smart move right now. I want to get over a bit more of my tendency to look outside myself for my happiness. I'm practicing generating my own happiness in absence of a mate -AND it's working.
When I get good enough at it, then I hope to find a partner who also understands this level of self-caring so that neither of us sacrifices self to the other. We can both be supportive of the others individuality & independence. This is my hope for the future.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 25, 2018 15:12:49 GMT -5
It's nice to read this, again, and again. A good reminder of the saying, "to thine own self,be true."
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