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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2016 15:55:27 GMT -5
Well, there is actually a good reason. I will not meet with her and I blocked her number. She is very good at manipulation and I am not going to give her a chance to manipulate me ever again. Well Creel, it gets better. She once told me that she was not in the mood for sex because I had spent too much money & there was not enough available for her. I really hope she finds a man who will give her enough money to make her feel like fucking. You could have asked her, "How much do you charge?" |
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Post by unmatched on Apr 12, 2016 18:26:50 GMT -5
She knew perfectly well how unhappy you were before you left the marriage and had no interest in doing anything about it. Now you are gone she is filled with remorse and wants her marriage back and she might well be willing to do whatever it takes to get you back (at least in the short term). But nowhere in any of this is her thinking 'I love John, what would make him happy?'
She doesn't want to get back together because you are unhappy, she wants to get back together because she is unhappy and at the core of her life she is selfish bitch.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2016 18:46:34 GMT -5
I'm with mathdoll and Kat on this. It seems so impersonal to drive to your mother's facility, and leave a note on your car. I don't know your refuser, but it seems like game playing to me. Why not arrange to meet you in person and say this? Well, there is actually a good reason. I will not meet with her and I blocked her number. She is very good at manipulation and I am not going to give her a chance to manipulate me ever again. Now, it at least makes sense why she took this approach. Nevertheless, if she's a manipulater...and it seems many refusers are...then ignoring her is best. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 12, 2016 19:11:06 GMT -5
Well Creel, it gets better. She once told me that she was not in the mood for sex because I had spent too much money & there was not enough available for her. I really hope she finds a man who will give her enough money to make her feel like fucking. You could have asked her, "How much do you charge?" Or tell her what your fee is! And give her a bill for, " services rendered"! Or " rear- ended" whatever the case may be! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2016 20:06:15 GMT -5
She is very good at manipulation and I am not going to give her a chance to manipulate me ever again.And there's your answer! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 14:33:56 GMT -5
Yes, the more I have thought about the letter, the angrier I get. NOW, she tells me that she thinks I am attractive & she wants to work on things? That is total bullshit. What she wants is for ME to work on things so SHE can enjoy MY efforts. Nope, not gonna happen. My lawyer is filing the divorce petition on Friday.
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 13, 2016 14:42:35 GMT -5
Yes, the more I have thought about the letter, the angrier I get. NOW, she tells me that she thinks I am attractive & she wants to work on things? That is total bullshit. What she wants is for ME to work on things so SHE can enjoy MY efforts. Nope, not gonna happen. My lawyer is filing the divorce petition on Friday. Guard your heart friend ! ( and your wallet!) |
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 13, 2016 14:49:31 GMT -5
"She wants to work on things!" Like giving you more hoops to jump through, and telling you what a disappointment you are. And how you can change to make everything better!
Sounds like more ammunition in your camp, you might want to encourage it for a little while. String her along, keep records, give her enough rope to hang herself! ( if you can stomach it!)
Victory is over the horizon!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 14:53:49 GMT -5
I think you are right GC. And I hope you eventually get away from your refusing cheater as well.
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Post by saxappeal on Apr 13, 2016 14:58:53 GMT -5
First, here is a little background. My mom is in an Alzeimer's facility in the town where I live. This is one of the main reasons I moved here, so I could be closer to her & see her more often. Almost every Saturday, I go visit her during lunch. She is less agitated then and is kind of distracted while she eats, so it's a good time to visit. Well, last Saturday, I came out and guess who had left a note on my vehicle? Yes, my refusing cheater. The note said that she is so sorry for witholding herself from me for so long, she really loves me, and wants to fix things. She also talked about all of my good qualities that make her attracted to me. I am calling bullshit. She has not said a positive thing about me in over 7 years. And now, since I moved out, she sees positive qualities? I just don't buy it. Any thoughts? My first thought here is she having any therapy? I tell you for why that was one thing a therapist asked me was my refusers best qualities |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 15:01:14 GMT -5
My first thought here is she having any therapy? I tell you for why that was one thing a therapist asked me was my refusers best qualities She has been going to a counselor. So it's possible that she is getting advice. Also, I am sure that she is being told what to say by female friends. But it is just too late. I have been putting up with her for almost 30 years. |
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Post by DryCreek on Apr 14, 2016 17:01:46 GMT -5
It seems so impersonal to drive to your mother's facility, and leave a note on your car. I don't know your refuser, but it seems like game playing to me. Why not arrange to meet you in person and say this? I agree. Personalities differ, but from this armchair she should be begging the OP to have a discussion, and discuss the details in person. |
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Post by bballgirl on Apr 19, 2016 14:09:20 GMT -5
I agree. You have known her for 7 years and people don't change that quickly. She is probably lonely, broke or depressed and thinks that you will plug the gap until she feels better.....Sorry. Exactly!! This!!! People don't change!!! |
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