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Post by tamara68 on Apr 13, 2016 2:22:59 GMT -5
I have warned him, but I don't think he will listen. But as others have said here, he might remember it and think twice before having kids. And if his relation gets worse he might be leaving a little sooner than he would have done otherwise. Or maybe he can persuade his girl to do something about her insecurities. They are still young, maybe not to late yet.
He is Dutch by the way, so culture is not the problem. (I mean not much different from American.) He just happens to be one of the few Dutch who don't understand English that well. It is a pity for all non-English that on all kinds of subjects there is much more to find on the internet than in smaller language communities.
Anyway, I can't do more than warn him.
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Post by DryCreek on Apr 13, 2016 2:34:16 GMT -5
Argh! No kids!!!!
Yes, the reality is that he won't listen to you. But you have a duty to educate him. ;-)
Seriously, most of us let our situations drag out because we had no idea sexlessness was was a thing, or that it wouldn't get better. The best you could hope for is to open his eyes to the facts so he can learn more when he's ready.
DC
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Post by tamara68 on Apr 13, 2016 2:46:18 GMT -5
I will do an attempt to educate him  I have pointed out to him that I am older and wiser... lol That should do the trick. Before I found EP, I had no idea how many would be in a similar situation. And I must say I find it very sad to know that so many are dragging their bad situation out of fear or out of hope things will improve some day. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 9:08:30 GMT -5
Please listen to the woman. She's smart. It's right there in her name.... Awwww....thanks. I needed to hear that today. And she has luscious big boobs! |
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Post by lwoetin on Apr 13, 2016 22:09:58 GMT -5
Just warn him of probability of joining our fantastic group and if he chooses to proceed with marriage, then I give my blessings for having many children. They are fabulous creatures. Are you crazy?! If they have children he could end up being trapped forever! Yes, I am crazy for my kids. I would never in any situation not have them in this world. |
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Post by lwoetin on Apr 13, 2016 22:21:04 GMT -5
Awwww....thanks. I needed to hear that today. And she has luscious big boobs! OK, I lose. Nothing beats big boobs. I gotta watch the playoffs at Hooters one of these days. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2016 16:53:19 GMT -5
Are you crazy?! If they have children he could end up being trapped forever! Yes, I am crazy for my kids. I would never in any situation not have them in this world. I'm glad you love your kids. They need parents who love them. But, I would advise anybody in a problematic relationship - if you do not have kids, don't start having them. Like I said - once you have a child with someone, you forever have some kind of tie to that child's other parent. |
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 15, 2016 8:15:36 GMT -5
Argh! No kids!!!! Yes, the reality is that he won't listen to you. But you have a duty to educate him. ;-) Seriously, most of us let our situations drag out because we had no idea sexlessness was was a thing, or that it wouldn't get better. The best you could hope for is to open his eyes to the facts so he can learn more when he's ready. DC I agree wholeheartedly. Some people seem to think children will fix the issues. They won't. While I love them, they won't fix a bad relationship. Also, If it doesn't work now, it's NOT going to change! I learned that. If she/him is a refuser now - a longer relationship simply means - longer rejection. Like shoes, if they don't fit when you try them on, they will not change to fit you. No matter how cute they are. |
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Post by angryspartan on May 10, 2016 9:40:55 GMT -5
so did he listen?
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Post by tamara68 on May 11, 2016 5:17:38 GMT -5
angryspartan He listened, but I don't think he got the message. I think his relation doesn't mean a lot to him, but is to convenient to leave at the moment. It would be so bad if they would have kids in a relation like that. We have chatted a few times, but that faded out, I don't contact him anymore.
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Post by deleted on May 11, 2016 10:33:27 GMT -5
Tell him to get a vasectomy. Today. Before he impregnates her sentencing himself to a nice long prison sentence.
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I have pointed out to him that I am older and wiser... lol That should do the trick.
