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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2016 19:26:01 GMT -5
Today I went out by myself and had a great time. As I drove to the next town, I begin to feel the weight of helplessness lift off. I come home tonight and my daughter told me Dad you look different. I asked her what she meant. She said you look younger and more handsome. I had joy today, just stepping away from the situation. I would have never thought getting out would help so much. I plan on getting out at least once or twice a week.
It was also nice to have interactions with other people. I've have been loyal to my wife and have not had an affair. I keep myself in good shape and am a reasonable attractive person. I was beginning to think that there was something wrong with me. I know from reading that this is common. It was also fun to have some attention from the opposite sex. I am not trying to have physical affair but it made me feel good. I would not mind meeting a woman and having an emotional bond. I miss the company of a caring woman. Honestly, my wife cares more about politics than our relationship.. She tells me that I have a good life and should be thankful. If I worked then I would not want sex. But I work everyday taking care of kids, educating them,keeping the house, taken to sports, and cooking.
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Post by baza on Oct 2, 2016 0:00:58 GMT -5
Respite from a dysfunctional situation is a good thing.
Inter-acting with "normal" people is a good thing too.
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Beware the thin edge of the wedge.
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You could get to like the absence of the toxins an ILIASM shithole infects you with.
You could get the bug to have a "normal" life.
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You might get it in to your head to try temporary "Zip Code Therapy"
You might get it in to your head to consider permanent "Zip Code Therapy".
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 2, 2016 5:37:53 GMT -5
It's nice isn't it. In the fall in NC we are offered the opportunity to take in a # of festivals. I particularly enjoy the apple festivals available in my area. In years past I went with my X and spent a goodly portion of the time at tents viewing crafts or products she was interested in. Yesterday it was all about what I liked. As a result I was there a good deal longer than in years past and I had some great conversations with the vendors and artisans and learned a bit more about bees, humming birds, hematite, other stuff and acquiring some odd knowledge for later use a get togethers and holiday parties. A real plus was following a couple conversations, having the vendor mark down the price because they had enjoyed the conversation as much as me. It was great to spend the afternoon working the festival at my pace and interest level. One small benefit of opposite land.
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Post by bballgirl on Oct 2, 2016 6:03:32 GMT -5
Time to yourself is a good thing. You are focusing on yourself and trying to figure out what you want for the rest of your life.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Oct 2, 2016 10:42:41 GMT -5
It's nice isn't it. In the fall in NC we are offered the opportunity to take in a # of festivals. I particularly enjoy the apple festivals available in my area. In years past I went with my X and spent a goodly portion of the time at tents viewing crafts or products she was interested in. Yesterday it was all about what I liked. As a result I was there a good deal longer than in years past and I had some great conversations with the vendors and artisans and learned a bit more about bees, humming birds, hematite, other stuff and acquiring some odd knowledge for later use a get togethers and holiday parties. A real plus was following a couple conversations, having the vendor mark down the price because they had enjoyed the conversation as much as me. It was great to spend the afternoon working the festival at my pace and interest level. One small benefit of opposite land. You know I love going out alone too. I always end up chattering to really interesting people. That would never happen with him! |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2016 13:18:09 GMT -5
I never realized how nice it was to be without my spouse or children coming along. I would have felt selfish in the past for doing this. I woke up this morning with more patience and a joyful mood. Something that has been missing for a couple of weeks now.
I encourage anyone to take time for yourself. It was a good lesson to learn.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2016 19:03:29 GMT -5
It feels so good to do something you like, away from the person and situation that caused your pain.
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