“The Anatomy of a Sexless Marriage”
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Post by Dan on Sept 29, 2016 7:53:26 GMT -5
Author: Experience Project user "dan13732"
Date: May 30, 2015
Original URL: www.experienceproject.com/stories/Live-In-A-Sexless-Marriage/6702329
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Your knee is a fairly wonderful machine: it lets you stand, run, jump. And think of the knee of an athlete: how much more that knee as to do for its owner, with all the pressures and forces placed on it!
The knee is where two bones come together: the femur and the tibia. The bones are cushioned by the meniscus, which is a disk of cartilage between the legs bones. This disk keeps the two bones from grinding together which would otherwise cause pain and wear.
If the meniscus gets torn or worn… life is painful for anybody. For the hard working knee of an athlete: continued participation in sports may be impossible until the meniscus is fixed.
Marriage is like the knee: the place where where two people come together, and exhibit great flexibility to do great things. If the couple has kids, let me tell you, every day feels like running a marathon: the pressure put on the marriage can be quite intense. There is the daily grind of jobs and bills and dance lessons and soccer practice and homework and shopping and cooking and cleaning and family health issues.
But -- with a good marriage, well -- that is the marriage "flexing" to do what it has to do.
Just like the knee of that athlete.
Sex in marriage is like the cartilage in the knee: you just NEED it to be there for the thing to be healthy, and to function in all the things you need it to do.
I propose that a kidless marriage with low sex would be like trying to walk with a torn meniscus.
Trying to run a family in a marriage with no sex is like trying to run a marathon EVERY DAY with no cartilage whatsoever... it is just direct, bone-grinding-on-bone agony.
In my marriage, without sex, all the little slights and small inconsiderate words are greatly magnified. We are exhausted, and never get the relief of a sexual release. Our sleep is not as sound. We are devoid of all those great bonding hormones released during sex.
Perhaps it looks like we are "getting by" in our marriage. But to me, we feel debilitated; handicapped.
Date: May 30, 2015
Original URL: www.experienceproject.com/stories/Live-In-A-Sexless-Marriage/6702329
“The Anatomy of a Sexless Marriage”
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“How My Sexless Marriage Is Exactly Like a Bad Knee”
Your knee is a fairly wonderful machine: it lets you stand, run, jump. And think of the knee of an athlete: how much more that knee as to do for its owner, with all the pressures and forces placed on it!
The knee is where two bones come together: the femur and the tibia. The bones are cushioned by the meniscus, which is a disk of cartilage between the legs bones. This disk keeps the two bones from grinding together which would otherwise cause pain and wear.
If the meniscus gets torn or worn… life is painful for anybody. For the hard working knee of an athlete: continued participation in sports may be impossible until the meniscus is fixed.
Marriage is like the knee: the place where where two people come together, and exhibit great flexibility to do great things. If the couple has kids, let me tell you, every day feels like running a marathon: the pressure put on the marriage can be quite intense. There is the daily grind of jobs and bills and dance lessons and soccer practice and homework and shopping and cooking and cleaning and family health issues.
But -- with a good marriage, well -- that is the marriage "flexing" to do what it has to do.
Just like the knee of that athlete.
Sex in marriage is like the cartilage in the knee: you just NEED it to be there for the thing to be healthy, and to function in all the things you need it to do.
I propose that a kidless marriage with low sex would be like trying to walk with a torn meniscus.
Trying to run a family in a marriage with no sex is like trying to run a marathon EVERY DAY with no cartilage whatsoever... it is just direct, bone-grinding-on-bone agony.
In my marriage, without sex, all the little slights and small inconsiderate words are greatly magnified. We are exhausted, and never get the relief of a sexual release. Our sleep is not as sound. We are devoid of all those great bonding hormones released during sex.
Perhaps it looks like we are "getting by" in our marriage. But to me, we feel debilitated; handicapped.
