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Post by Chatter Fox on Sept 3, 2016 19:27:39 GMT -5
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 3, 2016 19:43:13 GMT -5
I read that article today. To some people sex is not important. Men and women. Some women, they don't know how to embrace their sexuality.
I think sometimes life, kids, bills, etc. form a block for some women and they put themselves last because they are putting everything and everyone else first. They lose a part of themselves that becomes their norm. It's sad and I don't agree with that philosophy. I put my kids first but I believe in balance in one's life and to go after what makes them happy. Sex makes me happy.
Other women they take it for granted because they are with husbands that will eagerly provide it yet they are selfish and won't compromise despite the good life they are afforded by their spouse.
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Post by Chatter Fox on Sept 3, 2016 20:01:12 GMT -5
I read that article today. To some people sex is not important. Men and women. Some women, they don't know how to embrace their sexuality. I think sometimes life, kids, bills, etc. form a block for some women and they put themselves last because they are putting everything and everyone else first. They lose a part of themselves that becomes their norm. It's sad and I don't agree with that philosophy. I put my kids first but I believe in balance in one's life and to go after what makes them happy. Sex makes me happy. Other women they take it for granted because they are with husbands that will eagerly provide it yet they are selfish and won't compromise despite the good life they are afforded by their spouse. That makes a lot of sense. I personally have come to believe that putting yourself and your relationship with your spouse first is (ironically) a very good way to put your kids first. I'm not sure that makes sense after writing it out but I know it makes sense in my head. Lol. I guess the way I see it, there is no better gift to give your children than a genuine display of love and affection for their other parent. I think having strong love for the mother/father of your child goes so much farther than any other act you can do for your kids. So many people seem to lose sight of that. I can understand why. I've fallen victim to it as well. It's so easy to get wrapped up in the obvious things your kids need. It's sometimes hard to remember that what they may need more than anything else is a mother and father that are still crazy about each other. |
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 3, 2016 20:17:09 GMT -5
I read that article today. To some people sex is not important. Men and women. Some women, they don't know how to embrace their sexuality. I think sometimes life, kids, bills, etc. form a block for some women and they put themselves last because they are putting everything and everyone else first. They lose a part of themselves that becomes their norm. It's sad and I don't agree with that philosophy. I put my kids first but I believe in balance in one's life and to go after what makes them happy. Sex makes me happy. Other women they take it for granted because they are with husbands that will eagerly provide it yet they are selfish and won't compromise despite the good life they are afforded by their spouse. That makes a lot of sense. I personally have come to believe that putting yourself and your relationship with your spouse first is (ironically) a very good way to put your kids first. I'm not sure that makes sense after writing it out but I know it makes sense in my head. Lol. I guess the way I see it, there is no better gift to give your children than a genuine display of love and affection for their other parent. I think having strong love for the mother/father of your child goes so much farther than any other act you can do for your kids. So many people seem to lose sight of that. I can understand why. I've fallen victim to it as well. It's so easy to get wrapped up in the obvious things your kids need. It's sometimes hard to remember that what they may need more than anything else is a mother and father that are still crazy about each other. I agree with you 100%. That is a huge gift parents can give their kids by showing them a loving and affectionate relationship as a couple. I also think actions speak louder than words. The words "I love you" meant nothing to me and we said that to each other right up to the end. Unfortunately it was a passionless "I love you" which will not withstand the test of time. |
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Post by Chatter Fox on Sept 3, 2016 20:23:50 GMT -5
That makes a lot of sense. I personally have come to believe that putting yourself and your relationship with your spouse first is (ironically) a very good way to put your kids first. I'm not sure that makes sense after writing it out but I know it makes sense in my head. Lol. I guess the way I see it, there is no better gift to give your children than a genuine display of love and affection for their other parent. I think having strong love for the mother/father of your child goes so much farther than any other act you can do for your kids. So many people seem to lose sight of that. I can understand why. I've fallen victim to it as well. It's so easy to get wrapped up in the obvious things your kids need. It's sometimes hard to remember that what they may need more than anything else is a mother and father that are still crazy about each other. I agree with you 100%. That is a huge gift parents can give their kids by showing them a loving and affectionate relationship as a couple. I also think actions speak louder than words. The words "I love you" meant nothing to me and we said that to each other right up to the end. Unfortunately it was a passionless "I love you" which will not withstand the test of time. Yep! Totally! Lately I mean it when I say I love her. Things have been going well though. Over the last year or so though when things got really rough, I sometimes felt a sinking feeling in my gut when I said it to her in front of my kids. I didn't feel it, but I said it ...it felt like an act for the kids and I wasnt sure they were buying it. They're young but not dumb. |
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Post by baza on Sept 3, 2016 21:02:51 GMT -5
This article by 'Conor Swanberg' reeks of concocted bullshit to me.
But the point being made is reasonable enough, even if he has manufactured an anecdote to fit it.
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"Sex has all sorts of collateral benefits to the participants".
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So "why" does 'Bittany Gibbons' get it, when numerous spouses in this group don't ?
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I dunno.
'Brittany' obviously thinks very differently to the usual refusive spouse seen in this group.
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Indeed, in this article about 'Andy' and 'Brittany' there is no suggestion that the marriage was an ILIASM shithole, rather, the claim was - "Brittany Gibbons and her husband Andy's relationship wasn't on the rocks, and there was no threat of divorce".
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 3, 2016 21:07:17 GMT -5
I agree with you 100%. That is a huge gift parents can give their kids by showing them a loving and affectionate relationship as a couple. I also think actions speak louder than words. The words "I love you" meant nothing to me and we said that to each other right up to the end. Unfortunately it was a passionless "I love you" which will not withstand the test of time. Yep! Totally! Lately I mean it when I say I love her. Things have been going well though. Over the last year or so though when things got really rough, I sometimes felt a sinking feeling in my gut when I said it to her in front of my kids. I didn't feel it, but I said it ...it felt like an act for the kids and I wasnt sure they were buying it. They're young but not dumb. I'm glad things are going better. Communication is key. My ex would say I love you and sometimes I would just say bye sometimes love you. I couldn't fake it. |
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Post by unmatched on Sept 3, 2016 21:10:53 GMT -5
This article by 'Conor Swanberg' reeks of concocted bullshit to me. But the point being made is reasonable enough, even if he has manufactured an anecdote to fit it. - "Sex has all sorts of collateral benefits to the participants". - So "why" does 'Bittany Gibbons' get it, when numerous spouses in this group don't ? - I dunno. 'Brittany' obviously thinks very differently to the usual refusive spouse seen in this group. - Indeed, in this article about 'Andy' and 'Brittany' there is no suggestion that the marriage was an ILIASM shithole, rather, the claim was - "Brittany Gibbons and her husband Andy's relationship wasn't on the rocks, and there was no threat of divorce". Exactly, she didn't do it for his benefit, she didn't do it to try and hold her marriage together, she didn't do it out of fear or obligation or duty. She did it because she was unhappy with herself, her self image and her sexuality and SHE wanted to do something about it. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2016 21:35:40 GMT -5
I read that article today. To some people sex is not important. Men and women. Some women, they don't know how to embrace their sexuality. I think sometimes life, kids, bills, etc. form a block for some women and they put themselves last because they are putting everything and everyone else first. They lose a part of themselves that becomes their norm. It's sad and I don't agree with that philosophy. I put my kids first but I believe in balance in one's life and to go after what makes them happy. Sex makes me happy. Other women they take it for granted because they are with husbands that will eagerly provide it yet they are selfish and won't compromise despite the good life they are afforded by their spouse. That makes a lot of sense. I personally have come to believe that putting yourself and your relationship with your spouse first is (ironically) a very good way to put your kids first. I'm not sure that makes sense after writing it out but I know it makes sense in my head. Lol. I guess the way I see it, there is no better gift to give your children than a genuine display of love and affection for their other parent. I think having strong love for the mother/father of your child goes so much farther than any other act you can do for your kids. So many people seem to lose sight of that. I can understand why. I've fallen victim to it as well. It's so easy to get wrapped up in the obvious things your kids need. It's sometimes hard to remember that what they may need more than anything else is a mother and father that are still crazy about each other. That's absolutely true. If your relationship with your spouse in in the shits it's going to have a bad effect on your kids. Kids need to see their parents in love, not just tolerating each other. |
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 4, 2016 11:57:10 GMT -5
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Post by DryCreek on Sept 4, 2016 12:35:52 GMT -5
Several good videos there... very creative. |
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 4, 2016 12:44:26 GMT -5
Several good videos there... very creative. Yes the kissing and undressing videos were very good. I'm going to put this on another thread |
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