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Hide the Sausage! Sept 2, 2016 14:34:13 GMT -5 via mobile DryCreek likes this

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Post by pinkskies on Sept 2, 2016 14:34:13 GMT -5

Sept 2, 2016 12:34:56 GMT -5 @boulderbob said:

Just so we understand, if my wife asks "Ohhhhhhh Baby.........you really.........can turn me on!!!

She is talking about this.

I have a dirty mind lol

pinkskies Junior Member Posts: 38 Age Range: 36-40	Hide the Sausage! Sept 2, 2016 14:39:31 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by pinkskies on Sept 2, 2016 14:39:31 GMT -5 What really sucks is that I really really want to have sex... Just not with him.. I'm about to go take a cold shower

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Hide the Sausage! Sept 2, 2016 19:31:15 GMT -5 solodriver and pinkskies like this

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Sept 2, 2016 14:39:31 GMT -5 pinkskies said:

What really sucks is that I really really want to have sex... Just not with him.. I'm about to go take a cold shower

I take a ton of cold showers, as I am sure most members do on this site.

I have been now in two SM relationships, with a 12 year brake between marriages. I cannot say poor me because I don't feel my entire world is bad. I had children (3 daughters) and that was my desire, to be a Dad. And I have had a good life and a pretty great sex life, except for now and the end of my first marriage.

But the funny thing for me is (I am 59 years old), I thought my sex life was over since it has been 3 years now. But I really like the people on this forum. I laugh, flirt, have someone who understands what I am going through to talk with, and that makes my life way more bearable. It is way more positive to feel life has potential and is not just beating you down.

Good Luck pinkskies and keep laughing and be positive!

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Hide the Sausage! Sept 2, 2016 20:56:22 GMT -5 solodriver, pinkskies, and 1 more like this

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Post by baza on Sept 2, 2016 20:56:22 GMT -5

Taking this story in to context with your other posts, it really looks like you have a good handle on what is going on, and are breaking it down in to its' basic components.
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That's a real smart strategy to handle these complex matters.
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You've already said you'd have left but for the kids, and presumably you are now deeply thinking about how you might manage the kids through such a scenario.
So you know that you want out.
That, is a good point of certainty to operate from.
You also know that re-set sex is not something you have any interest in either.
That is another good point of certainty to operate from.
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The simpler you can keep this, the better.

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Hide the Sausage! Sept 2, 2016 22:25:21 GMT -5 DryCreek, pinkskies, and 2 more like this

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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 2, 2016 22:25:21 GMT -5

I suspect his reset attempt is so that when you show up at the couple therapy, he can be all: we JUST had sex last weekend! But - I'm a cynic, so there's that.
As Baza points out, I'm glad to hear two points of sureness have been concluded/discovered/decided. That helps tremendously in the moves forward.
Good luck pinkskies!

Chatter Fox Full Member Posts: 291	Hide the Sausage! Sept 3, 2016 18:16:15 GMT -5 GeekGoddess, DryCreek, and 2 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Chatter Fox on Sept 3, 2016 18:16:15 GMT -5

Deleted Deleted Member Posts: 0	Hide the Sausage! Sept 3, 2016 18:25:30 GMT -5 via mobile bballgirl likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2016 18:25:30 GMT -5 Totally clueless. When you have broken a woman's heart you don't win her back by acting like a horny frat boy who has spent the day watching Ron Jeremy movies. But it's too late.

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