life77
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Post by life77 on Sept 1, 2016 10:30:44 GMT -5
Hi All, Well im pretty much at the end of my rope. Im tired of jacking off so often, which has led me to debt. Im tired of this fucking roller coaster. Any similar sm with attractive spouses? I am not making light of your situation - I've been there and am still there. But how the hell has jacking off caused you debt? For me, I just starting buying my shower curtain liners at the dollar store. In bulk. (quantity discount  ) But maybe I'm doing it wrong. As for the "attractive" part, I'm sure some men may find the FrigidAire attractive. Me personally, not so much. - porn sites cause me debt. |
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Post by nyartgal on Sept 1, 2016 14:01:16 GMT -5
I thought my ex-husband was wildly attractive, and I was totally hot for him. But he didn't feel attractive, he was convinced that women never looked at him and that guys like him (Asian, nice, not aggressive) always finished last. My desire for him just seemed to make him uncomfortable, maybe because it didn't jibe with his inner narrative. What was odd to me at the time was that he spent significant effort on his appearance, wearing nice clothes, getting fancy haircuts, working out. Later I realized that this was one more example of him caring about what other people think on the outside. As long as things looked good on the surface, it was okay with him.
Point is, as Baza says: either they want to fuck you, or they don't. And if they don't, it's basically impossible to convince them to start wanting to.
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Post by ted on Sept 1, 2016 14:39:00 GMT -5
For me, when I'm with her, her attitude turns me off and cancels out the attraction. When I'm away for long periods of time, my bad memories fade and she seems more attractive. Damn cycle.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 1, 2016 15:04:58 GMT -5
For me, when I'm with her, her attitude turns me off and cancels out the attraction. When I'm away for long periods of time, my bad memories fade and she seems more attractive. Damn cycle. Yep... I love my wife the most when I am not with her.... |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 1, 2016 22:45:52 GMT -5
For me, when I'm with her, her attitude turns me off and cancels out the attraction. When I'm away for long periods of time, my bad memories fade and she seems more attractive. Damn cycle. When I think about my ex or am with her in some superficial way I'm very attracted to her. If we try to talk or I'm with her for any length of time I remember why she's my ex. |
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Post by iceman on Sept 2, 2016 9:23:36 GMT -5
For me, when I'm with her, her attitude turns me off and cancels out the attraction. When I'm away for long periods of time, my bad memories fade and she seems more attractive. Damn cycle. Yep... I love my wife the most when I am not with her.... That happens to me as well. When I travel for work I sort of forget how bad things are between us and actually have some hope that when I return she will have missed me and magically become the wife I need. Stupid me. I should know better. I just end up feeling hurt and rejected. |
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life77
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Post by life77 on Sept 2, 2016 10:14:53 GMT -5
Yep... I love my wife the most when I am not with her.... That happens to me as well. When I travel for work I sort of forget how bad things are between us and actually have some hope that when I return she will have missed me and magically become the wife I need. Stupid me. I should know better. I just end up feeling hurt and rejected. I definitely feel you both. I have deployed multiple times, months at a time, and missed her dearly. Hoping when i return we will start on a brand new. |
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Post by life77 on Sept 2, 2016 10:44:50 GMT -5
I thought my ex-husband was wildly attractive, and I was totally hot for him. But he didn't feel attractive, he was convinced that women never looked at him and that guys like him (Asian, nice, not aggressive) always finished last. My desire for him just seemed to make him uncomfortable, maybe because it didn't jibe with his inner narrative. What was odd to me at the time was that he spent significant effort on his appearance, wearing nice clothes, getting fancy haircuts, working out. Later I realized that this was one more example of him caring about what other people think on the outside. As long as things looked good on the surface, it was okay with him. Point is, as Baza says: either they want to fuck you, or they don't. And if they don't, it's basically impossible to convince them to start wanting to. Yep, they want to fuck you or they dont. See its not about the physical attraction. My reason of mentioning the attractiveness is because I feel it makes the sexless marriage even worse. |
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